When my husband gets mad at me he doesnt come home at night, what should I do??

Answer 1

you deserve better!!!!!!!! change the lock on the door.... I would... this guy is extremely immature and or is just using a fight as an excuse to go out some where and do God knows what!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

One thing you could try is when he leaves for the night, call a locksmith and have all the doorlocks changed. When he tries to come home and his key no longer works, or if he comes home and youre partying at your place with a bunch of men, I PROMISE you he will think twice about walking out again.

His walking out when things get difficult shows a basic lack of maturity. Only cowards run away when the going gets tough. Females should be taught to only marry MEN, not guys with the emotions of 12 year olds.

What's next? He gets mad at you and holds his breath til he turns blue? Tell him to grow up or if he's going to leave, STAY GONE.

Answer 3

Please don't get upset, but it sounds as if he's using anger with you as an excuse to stay out all night. You may discover that he's getting mad at you or starting fights with you on certain nights of the week. I would be speculating only, but I think there is something else going on here and the fight with your is a farce. Try to notice a pattern. See if he creates problems so he can fight with you. If you see a certain night repeating, be unavailable that night, go grocery shopping or out with your sister or something so he has no one to fight with. If he still makes up a reason to be angry and goes out all night....pretty good sign something is up. You are going to have to make a decision regarding your feelings about the marriage, as I think there is some damage here. If he's getting physical when you fight, you need to have the locks changed and let him stay wherever he's sleeping from now on.


Good Luck

Answer 4

He might just want to spend some time away from you to cool off or maybe he doesn't want to come home because he doesn't want to argue or get mad at you anymore. He really shouldn't be doing this, you two need to talk over your conflicts in order to move on from them. You might want to get some marriage counseling so the two of you can learn how to communicate better and to be able to air out any problems you have with each other.

Answer 5

I don't know but it doesn't sound good. My husband gets mad at me too sometimes but he doesn't do that. We talk about our problems and work through them. I think there might be a different reason why hes gone, besides being mad at you. There might be another woman somewhere hes spending the night with but he claims that hes mad. You need to wake up and do something. That's a red flag!! I don't know what u should do but you need to do something, don't just sit there

Answer 6

get counseling for your relationship (which sounds like it's pretty close to the end) or cut to the chase and make it possible for you to separate until you can find a more compatible person to love. people in love dont leave eachother alone at night or hanging like that. lose the loser. or maybe you should do some sort of self evaluation first - take an outsider's opinion.

Answer 7

Hire a detective to see what he is doing on those nights. Unless you are willing to put up with a cheating husband, get a divorce. Have you seen the show cheaters?

Answer 8

Girl sorry to hear such but listen up?Hubby shouldn,t be stayin out like that,when get into an arguement(mad) with?Communication is lackin?regroup yalls skills on what love is about and the fundamentals of marriage?Now!i,m not sayin that he is but girl!it seems as if he,s creepin?and you are stuck on stupid(blind love we say!(lol)i can be wrong?but,check this out,i assume you do all the laundry!?take a wiff of them draws(boxers)crouch of pants when returns,along with other sighns,such as lip stick,purfume scents that isn,t his and deff!ain,t yours!trust you will know for self if so,if not eliminate that,(oooHHhh!soap?is a good one but at least you will know and make choice?or sit down and correct the probs by talkin and not gettin upset with each other,if he don,t wanna hear it,Girlllllllllllllllll,either,it,s anger management class or he,s cheatin!?see doing what he do leaveing and not comin home he has to be stayin somewhere?or with someone?or has a portion of his life he doesn,t desire to share with you!not cute?or get you one of those detective person for cheaters?trust?it helps if don,t know what to do?

Answer 9

Honestly if he just walks out on you that can be his way of cooling off. (I had to do it before) Time and space to cool of is the key. Now if this is a constant thing, (once every 2 weeks) then something is a miss… I would check that out. But just changing the locks or locking him out the house is a bit immature and who ever suggested that needs to grow up

Answer 10

ask your self this question,would i be happy if he left me,,,,,, if your answer is NO.then read this. I used to go through that , but in order for me to win our power struggle and Finlay be happy, I had to give up ,I used to always want reasons for everything that he did, I used to act jealous, and i never accepted any excuse that he gave me.we would always ague and he would leave for the night.i would get stressed and cry.i hated the way our relationship was heading. i did not want him to leave me because even though we argued alot i knew him, and i knew that he was a good man to me in many other ways.i knew in my heart that i would not be happy with out him.things got so bad,i could not even stand the sound of my own voice, i really think i was driving him away so this is what I did i gave up, I didn't question him any more,at all. i let him be a man.he is human you know and why should i treat him like a kid.i love him and it's my job to make him Happy.that night i stared at him all night and i felt so bad for always make him look like the bad guy.the next morning i made myself change i decided to trust him and show him that i was there for him no matter what, if he wanted to go out with his friends i let him and i don't question him. he would call me out of his own will just to say he was OK. i started tonotce we did not ague any more, it made me happy to see him happy, he also became a better husband to me. ALL JUST BECAUSE I GAVE HIM TRUST AND FREEDOM, I STARTED TREATING HIM LIKE A MY MAN NOT MY SON.NOW ITS NINE YEARS L8R I'M 26 AND HE IS 25 HE IS SO GOOD TO ME. I'm mGLAD I OPEND MY EYES B4 IT WAS TOO LATE.I HOPE MY STORY HELPS,just try to be strong and if you love him show him, and if he does not change his ways than you know waht to do...take care

Answer 11

It could be his way of getting out of the house to see the other woman he has.Think about it's time u argue. He probably is the one who starts it hah. u need to sit down with him and ask him what's really going on. Do u even know where he lays his head? honey if it is another woman leave his dusty tail