I've been married and divorced 5 times in my life. I never asked a lady to marry me, they always did that part. I always had to kick them out when things got bad. I never screwed around on my lady. With the first one, I had a son that his mom raised, the third one I had a daughter, that I raised. Her, my daughter, and I are best friends to this day. She is 25 now. She is recently married to a great guy from the Northwest, and I'm really happy for her, and my son is now a minister in Bend Oregon. I'm so proud of him. Now when I try to think about having a relationship with a lady, all they do is want stuff, and expect me to be rich or something. I have my money in a safe place, are all women this way? or did I not learn anything about the species in my life?
2006-06-23 18:26:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1st off congratulations on your wonderful children, very admirable that you were a part of their lives growing up and presently, although it's the right thing to do, it don't mean you had too. Mar&Div 5x's something is missing in this picture. Maybe you should look at the fact that you mentioned you were never the one to ask, it was always the women. Think about why you never asked, maybe the answer lies there...if you didn't ask maybe it was because you didn't want to, weren't ready, or just did not feel that relationship was one able to go into the next level. If you just enjoyed waiting 4 the woman to ask, then you seem to like aggressive women. But aggressive and independent don't always go hand in hand. You say you have no problem with monogamy, so the problem lies someplace between you and the "type" of women you attract or are attracted too.Believe me, not all women are only in it for the money, status or what they can get out of the marriage. The next time you find yourself interested in a woman, stop and think what is it about her that attracts you. If you start to see any similarities to your past "loves" tank the idea and go out someplace you wouldn't normally go therefore meeting women you wouldn't normally meet. See if the change alone intrigues you. Try something new, and give yourself some time to meet a few women, don't get stuck on one right away. That's what dating is for to get to know people and at the same time get to know a little more about your dating habits. There is no problem with mistakes or unsuccessful relationships as long as you come out learning something about yourself. Take it slow and easy and be honest and free about dating all types of different women. You may find the last thing you thought you wanted was exactly what you needed!
2006-06-28 16:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you have been married and divorced 5x's, i would suggest counseling to not repeat the same pattern anymore. Do some reading on relationship books.Why do you keep drawing this type of partner to you?? I think it takes a little soul searching and introspection. No offense, just seems a little concerning. Good luck !
2006-06-23 18:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Michele S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read an article in Cosmo about "Why Men Love Bitches" that stated that when a woman acts like a *****, she comes off as someone who holds themselves in high regard. Men want what they cant have, and if she acts like someone they cant get, then they become something they have to have. So they work harder to get her. I think the same goes for men. "Why Do Women Loves Assholes?" it's because they are something that we cant quite get a grasp of. I don't think that all women are gold diggers, but I do think that we would back stab another woman in a heartbeat. Maybe not all of us, but a good number of us. I don't know if this helps at all - but maybe it will help you to think about how you come across to women.
2006-06-23 19:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by likmytulips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No we aren't all like that.Theres something within yourself that is attracting these types.Once you figure that out it will fall into place.I've been married and divorced 3 time's.2 alcoholic's and one beater.Once I realized it was my own self worth getting in the way and many year's of self help,I can see more clearly and don't seem to attract those types.Or at least I recognize before they get here!!Good luck.It will happen when your not looking.
2006-06-23 18:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women are not gold diggers, maybe you are just meeting the wrong type of woman. There are plenty of women who don't want your money, they just want to get to know you. Make sure you aren't confusing "gold digging" with women expecting you to be chivalrous. I think it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to expect a man to pay for dinner, buy her flowers, etc - that's not gold digging, thats just wanting a true old fashioned gentleman.
2006-06-23 18:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both- reckoning on your contemporary adulthood and proposals set. casual - in case you want to be carefree, unmarried, non committed and in uncomplicated phrases favor the actual aspects of the courting. intense - in case you want committment, responsibility, emotional to boot as actual, a good buddy and searching in route of making a existence with this individual. i become fairly happy with casual relationships till i felt interior me that it become time to settle, commence a relations etc. So casual become effective at the same time as i had to be unmarried and carefree, yet at the same time as i wanted committment and little ones, intense courting is tremendous also. My better half is my perfect buddy.
2016-11-15 04:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by poissant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 times, its safe to say u didnt learn a damn thing
2006-06-23 18:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋