Yes I've know that he has been in bisexual relationships from day one. He stopped sleeping with men when his mother found out not because he wanted to but he didnt wanna hurt her any more. She now wants us to get married ( and i do love him ) but i think he's doing it to cuz she very sick and wants to see her only son married before she dies.
2006-06-23 17:52:52 · 18 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DON'T DO IT!!!! Don't be a gluton for punishment. He's gay sweetie. He's not marrying you for the right reasons. He will eventually cheat on you with a man. If he wants to get married for his mothers sake, fake a wedding (just don't get the marriage certificate), tell her you eloped and let it go.
2006-06-23 17:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute here..... Think for a minute about what you are saying. First of all, he stopped sleeping with guys becuase his mother found out, not because that's actually what HE wanted. Secondly, now he wants to get married to make his mom happy before she dies. He's doing things for his mom, not himself. He's involving you, which isn't very fair! If you truly love him, stick by his side, but no way in hell should you marry this man.
2006-06-24 01:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if youre not god fearing folk, id say the solution is to get married, have the wedding, but dont file the legal paperwork. so according to the church you would be married, but legally you wouldnt be. you could always go back and make it legit if you wanted to. she would never know it wasnt legal.
the fact that he slept with guys doesnt matter. so did you i assume. the question is "is he monogamous". if he cheats, does it really matter if he cheats with a man as opposed to another woman? if youre in love with him, and want to marry him, and he wants to marry you, no problem. if youre afraid he wont be faithful to you after his mother dies, ask him. and are you the first woman hes ever been with? cause then he might just be gay. between you and him and nothing about his mother, find out what he really wants. if you are just friends, than getting actually married is no way to go. but people have successfully faked stranger things. id marry my best friend to make his mom happy before she died. i wouldnt do it legally, or would get divorced after it was all over, but i would. id like to think god is into making moms happy.
2006-06-24 01:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by janushyde01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you or your background, but I would say you need to spend a long time in this relationship before you marry.
This is a little like driving a truckload of nitroglycerine. You will be fine if you don't hit any bumps in the road. I'd say give him the benefit of the doubt. Encourage him to seek counseling. Take your time.
Be prepared to make a tough decision to break up if that is what the signs tell you to do. But be prepared to put this behind if it does work out.
2006-06-24 01:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm...if you feel strong enough about his mother to give her that gift, sure but as soon as she dies, he's gonna be back at doing guys. The question is: do you want to deal with that? Is that the kind of marriage you want? If the answer is yes, then go for it. Otherwise just say no.
2006-06-24 01:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Obvious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love him, but you don't say your in love with him, and that does make a huge difference. In a marriage, being in love with someone can not be one sided. Is he in love with you? Marriage is not something to be entered into due to someone else's health or emotional feelings about their childrens behavior. It is a very special bond that requires certain strengths from each person entering it. Both being the same sexual orientation is most helpful and another is wanting to share a life together, to grow old with this person, to have a exclusive life together because they want it, not because of outside pressures. It is a very serious committment.
2006-06-24 01:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by authorunknown1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not up to his mother. it's up to you. if you can live with the fact that this man has had sexual relationships with men and if you really love each other then go for it. but don't do it because his mother wants you to, no matter how sick she is. you're the one who has to live with this decision, not her. and if she isn't going to be around much longer, then what's the point?
2006-06-24 00:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then Nikki after she dies, what does he do. He would soon be back to his old ways, as soon as he sees a guy that he likes or some stressful situation. I would also like to know about what you think you'er life would be like, with those chances of contracting HIV or AIDS??
2006-06-26 13:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ewww.....that would be a total personal preference there...if you could stomach it, and know without a fact your not being exposed to any deadly diseases....
but how heart broken will you be, after his mother dies, and he leaves you for another guy?
2006-06-24 01:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by celeste_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really feel those are his reasons then no, you shouldn't marry him.
2006-06-24 01:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋