Once i went to this party and i got drunk. i went to a room and my man and me were naked. i din´t remember anything. I lost my virginity and my man left me for a stupid slut. hore. *****
2006-06-23 17:52:36 · 14 answers · asked by spoil brat 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
For the love of good put the kid up for adoption. it scares me that people like you are driving on the same roads as me, much less breeding. please please, for the sake of humanity don't add to the gene pool.
2006-06-23 17:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by T C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, You can't be mad at the other girl- It takes two! And for the baby, I had the same situation except for the fact I was married, Same scenario though, I was 16, Married, pregnant, baby BOY was born, he's gone, got a divorce, haven't seen or heard from him in 2 and a half years.My beautiful baby is now 6 and he knows he has a biological father but his DADDY raises him! Don't ever blame the baby for that mistake that happened with a Dumb-ss peice of S*it! He will one day have to look that baby in the face and explain it! Don't fret, Do your job at being a great mommy and that is all he needs and don't get down on yourself even though it was a mistake, your baby is a miracle, a hard one sometimes, but a beautiful one! AND for all the people who judge you IT Will come back around, It's called Karma!!! Sue his a*s for child support, go to school while your baby is still young and be somebody! P.S. There is better out there and alot of men think women with children are just as beautiful as women without!!! BUT take your time this time! I hope this helps! Good LUCK and KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!
2006-06-24 01:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Moma!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, not to judge, but you sound like a little kid asking for attention, however i will answer it the same as if you were a legal 18 year old (no age provided take no offence) who is still in school and not out on their own yet.
First, take damn good care of that kid, that's the first thing. That child you've got is invaluable, and its importance shines out that of a fool who would get you pregnant and leave.
Make sure your parents are aware, as embarasing as it might be, you NEED support, and if they can live up to the name parent, as much as they might be angry, they will still shield you with their wings.
Second, emotionally cut off the father, do not respond to him, a common attempt by people like him (and my father) is to leave, ignore you, etc. then on the day of birth they rush to the hospital with a well rehearsed sob story about how they were scared(confused, in disbelief, etc) and tell you they'll cherish you and the child forever, and they will sign the birth certificate. First thing you shoud do, tell them to leave, immediately. By allowing them to sign the birth certificate you are just giving them a hold on you, and a very large one at that, to pull at emotional heart strings, and the life of your child.
Third, make sure you do have a support Adult Figure aside from yourself. It may be a sibling, a parent, cousin, close friend, etc. Make sure you both (or at least two of you if there are three and up) have secure jobs. As much as you may be tempted to stay at home with the baby and leech off of others for the time being, don't. Stay home with the child until it can feed off of formula, or bottled breast milk, and can function well enough with the help of another. This will be good for both of you.
Finally, do not overprotect the child from its past, but do not force it on the kid. Wait until they're around Junior/Senior year of high school before you start discussing it, and only do so if they want to know. Let the child grow up happy, content, and with you as the Parent, not just the mother, with their family around them, not an empty space filled with confused emotions and incorrect knowledge about this man they could have called "father"
I know from experience, personal, and those close to me, i have seen the good and the bad from this, as it is an all to common problem, i was fortunant enough to be on the good side of it, and my Mom, Aunt and Grandmother did one hell of a job raising me. To this day i don't know much about Christopher R, the man i could have called "father"
If all comes to worst, do not get an abortion, it will scar you mentally wose then any other option, if you must, put him up for adotion in a safe, secure, financially able, and friendly orphanage you inspect. Don't just load your Son off, make sure he'll be raised in a good environment, preferably by you, but if not, in the second best place that is possible.
2006-06-24 01:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by warior916 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I have to say, how incredibly irresponsible of you. Bringing a child into the world like that. Second of all, if you are ready to be a mother, prayer is a powerful thing. Rely on God to help you. Patience is key with young children. If you don't think you are ready for motherhood, there are lots of families out there who can't have children that would be more than happy to give yours the home you want him to have. God bless you.
2006-06-24 01:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by kimmygogo21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Arshi Sajad prefer Why did u drank that is your problem, becoz, this are not good habits I belive. So whenever u go party plz, I assure not to drink not to phase problems. Now plz go and understand the guy and compramise both of u lead ur life
2006-06-24 01:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by arshisajad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty young still. My suggestion weather you are or not is to either give your baby up for adoption if you are not ready to be a parent, or get growing up real fast and look after your baby real good.
2006-06-24 00:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple you need to be a strong mother and raise this child. If your not capable of doing so you need to give him up for adoption.
2006-06-24 01:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by happy2help1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
file for child support, grow up and raise your son or put him up for adoption. maybe sign custody over to an adult family member. and stop going to parties, getting drunk, and ending up naked....you have no-one to blame for this but yourself!!
2006-06-24 01:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by michelle_marie26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...there are a couple of options...
Child Support - so he knows that he OWES you...literally...
Or the more righteous route...Just move on and try to leave the past behind...If he's that bad, you don't need him in your life...
Best Wishes...:(
2006-06-24 00:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by youngrodzilla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young, immature, and irresponsible. Give the child up for adoption.
2006-06-24 01:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by G.V. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything to be done. If he left you then you have to move on with life and forget about it. That's men for ya!
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2006-06-24 00:57:13 · answer #11 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋