She has a 7 month old baby that is not mine but carries my last name. I have been there for him since she was 3 months pregnant. I even cut the imbellicle cord. My fiancee's mom, who does drugs, has never been there for her her entire life but ever since she had the baby has been a control freak over every aspect of her life and has driven her to the point of madness and thoughts of suicide. She wants the child to live with me until she is able to leave that house and her moms control. The baby's bio-dad recently took her to court for visitation rights. My fiancee's mom refused us the right to an attorney to represent her in the court hearings. She went with her to the hearings and wouldnt let my fiancee to speak and gave the bio-dad everything he asked for. The bio-dad is a drug addict among many things and was even convicted of assaulting me. IS THERE ANY WAY AT ALL SHE CAN LIVE WITH ME OR IS THERE ANY WAY THE CHILD CAN LIVE WITH ME WITHOUT THE CHILDREN SERVICES DEEMING HER UNFIT?
2006-06-23 17:41:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She can apply for emancipation. which will make her a legal adult. But she does seem too young for you. She probably thinks you are the way out of the hell she is in. It sounds like the baby would be better off elsewhere, and not with you. You like the young ones right?
2006-06-23 17:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by jacah5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you/her to do in this situation is to get a lawyer. If she can prove that she can live on her own she may be able to get emancipated. You would really need to ask a lawyer in Ohio about the laws there.
The only way she could legally live with you would be if you were married, which her mom would need to approve if she is under 18. The only way that you could get custody of the child would be if you adopted the child or the parents gave up their rights.
Since her mom does drugs, she has reason to want to leave. She could easily leave and move - I'm sure her mom wouldn't want the police looking too hard at her - because they would find she was an addict. All your fiance would have to do would be to rat her out and she'd be arrested.
You could handle this situation a few different ways - your best bet would be to contact a lawyer and ask the lawyer about the law and how the best way to get your fiance and the baby moved in with you legally.
2006-06-23 17:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better check the laws in the state you're in. It's actually a crime in some states to involve yourself with a child (under 18) if you're an adult. By the way....once she is a mother, her mother has no say so in the disposition of the child. She can't give the bio-dad anything as she has no rights in regards to the child......NO RIGHTS......NO RIGHTS.....someone is lying to you....why too would the baby carry your last name unless your name is on the birth certificate? The biological father's name would be the child's name and she would have to have his permission to change it. This entire thing smells fishy. If I were you, I'd do a little more investigating. It most states the child retains the biological father's last name unless he gives up custody. Also her mother can't refuse you the right to an attorney as the mother of the child needs to be represented. You could have hired an attorney and had them in court regardless of what her mother said.
2006-06-23 17:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you really want to be with a girl who can't even stand up and speak up for her baby that the bio-dad is a drug addict and violent....doesn't that give off a big red flag she's still a child? Trust me regardless of her mother, she as a mother of that baby, has a voice.
If I were you I'd only extend a hand for the welfare of the baby-get her a lawyer, help discuss the matter...but other than that, leave her alone. And also let her grow up...at 16, sorry but you're not the love of her life and eventually she'll grow up. The only tragedy of this post is not your love story...but the innocent baby caught up in it.
2006-06-23 23:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by SusaJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, no one is going to give a 16 year olds 25 year old boyfriend custody of her child. you are 25. you have no business dating a 16 year old. this being said, if youre girlfriend is unable to take care of the baby, she needs to hand it over to child protective services. you have no rights, and no business in this until the two of you are married. thats just the way it is. if your fiancee would be able to take care of herself, then she needs to sue to be an emancipated minor, and move out. where she moves after that is no business of the courts, except for visitation purposes. and she needs a lawyer. her mother does not have the right to waive an attorney for her against her will. she just needs to tell the court she wants one. and the biological father is going to be involved in this childs life until or unless he is proven to be a danger to the child. so get used to him being around. it seems enough people have taken advantage of this girl already. if you really love her, maybe you shouldnt be one of them. you may love her, but she is young impressionable and desperate. there is very little she wouldnt do for love and security. be there for her. but let her stand on her own. thats what she needs more than anything.
2006-06-23 17:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by janushyde01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would have to go to court to file a divorce from her mom. Or have them deem her an adult since she now has a child or you can simply marry her now at the court house.
2006-06-23 17:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by willyo2340 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a grown man dating a baby with a baby! think about this picture! something isnt right! what in your little mind would make you even think about being with a 16 year old girl? you need to plan on keeping yourself out of prison instead of worrying about how to take this little girl away from her family!
2006-06-23 18:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a sick man being with a 16 year old girl... the girl and the child should not be anywhere around you
2006-06-23 17:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by christina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some professional advice from a legal representative. ASAP!!
2006-06-23 17:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact an attorney. An attorney can advise you on what's best and legal for you to do.
2006-06-23 17:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋