My friend is getting my other friends mad at me! What should I do?

Question

okay, here's the story:
I ditched my freind at lunch time to go out with some of my other friends which she is friends with too. So when we got back she I found out she was mad at me and ONLY me! Now she's getting people mad at me!! what should I do?

Answer 1

Oh, boy. First of all, ask yourself if you handled this right. Would you want your friend to "ditch" you and hang with another group of mutual friends? Or would you rather she just told you "I'm going to go hang with Sally & Sue today. I'll see you after lunch."?

When you're up front with peeps, they might still get upset, but it won't last long. When you just "ditch" them ... they tend to get way pi$$ed about it ... and strike back.

Let it go. The less you say or do about it the better off you'll be. It will soon pass, because someone else will do something dumb and get you off the hook. LOL

Just always remember to treat peeps the same way you want to be treated and this won't come up too often.

Answer 2

You should tell her you didn't mean to hurt her feelings.. That you just went to talk to some other friends. And if she's still mad, she's probably just hurt because she maybe felt like you didnt want to be with her, and that might have made her thought there was a reason. So maybe she felt sad about that and that the only way to feel better was to get other friends on her side to make her feel more secure.. I dont know. I've been there many times though, except I've been the other person. Can you help me with my friend problem too? I just asked it. :)

Answer 3

Let it go.... well that probably won't work. Its all part of life, just be willing to learn from these incidents. You ditched her, kinda jacked up, but now you know what kinna person she is. Don't give her the power to affect you. But don't just pretend that it doesn't bother you, actually take control of yourself and get past it, stay friendly with her, but if she decides to still be malicious than just avoid her. Don't allow her to make you hate, there's already too much of that in the world. Just let it go.

Answer 4

What kind of magic does she have to control so many other people's emotions? She must be one powerful sorceress. There are three sides to every story, your side, her side, and the truth. You haven't said what she's telling others, or how she's turned them into her puppets so they get mad at whoever she wants them to, so it's really difficult to offer any insight. If she's lying, confront her in front of the others. The ones she's telling stories to. Like this...

You and her and two or three of the others.....you say...

"Hey, was it her that told you that about me....."

Other one says...."Yes"

You say...."Why would you say that about me, when you know it's not true?"

Then shut up.....don't say anything......just stand and look at her like you would at a puppy that peed on your floor.....like you know she did wrong......and wait her out.....let her talk......and talk and talk.......if she walks away...shrug your shoulders and say...

"She must have to think about it."

Good Luck

Answer 5

well... all you have to do is to be true to yourself.. don't take revenge.. that is a very bad thing that you could do to your friend... ask her why she is mad then talk to her and make things clear... that is all!!

Answer 6

if u feel ur friend is getting on ur nerves. LEAVE HIM!

Answer 7

do u now way

Answer 8

jeeez. if that happened to me, i would like go up to that person and ask wtf is her problem. thenn, i would go to the other people and like ask them what your friend said about me and then try to make them not mad at me. seriously, you guys are all friends, WTF is your friend`s problem.

Answer 9

you should appoligize for ditching her and go from there.....

Answer 10

find out what her "real" problem is.