I caught my girl friend cheating on me. It's been two years now. I can't imagine the scenery. Can someone please give me any advice how to get over this trauma once and for all? This has been effecting me negatively through all post relationships.
2006-06-23 17:08:29 · 19 answers · asked by Cifru 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forgive and trust and again. Not everyone is like that. Some people simply do not have a concept of loyalty and faithfulness.
2006-06-23 17:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to get over. I have been married for eight years and four years ago my husband cheated on me. I forgave him. He told me all the things I wanted to hear. I will never do it again. We can get through this. Just give me one more chance. So I did. Well this past summer He had another affair and I found out that he just had another one this past month. It is hard and you know what when you are cheated on I do not think you can ever get over it. It hurts, you try to heal, but how. You feel like you can't trust anyone. I wish I had advice for you, but take it from me when you are cheated on it is hard to get over.
2006-06-30 10:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by amy b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone cheats on you it takes away some of your self worth and it's hard to get back and takes time.. . Don't let someone do this to you.. She is the one that is not worth it!!!!! Those type of people are coward's and have no regard for anyone but themselves... Someone will come into your life that makes you feel good about yourself again, Don't dwell on it , learn from it ....It hurts when that happens so I personally could not do that to someone else....... And at least you can sleep with a clear conscience!!!!!! Time does heal , let it go.... Good luck ...
2006-06-23 17:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Cheating is the hardest thing to get over. It's the ultimate betrayal of trust. I hate to tell you, but the honest answer is time. Time doesn't heal ALL wounds, but time makes it less painful. You have to learn to trust again. And once it's been done to you, MAN....it's the hardest thing to do again. Don't punish your other relationships because of one person. They didn't cheat on you, she did. Give someone else the chance to prove to you not all women cheat. I'm sorry for your pain.
2006-06-23 17:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being chaeted on is not an easy thing to get over. i mean it has happened to the best of us and i dont think there is a cure. I was cheated on once and from then on i really cant help but think that every guy i date is cheating on me. But dont let it ruin what u could have with someone else. Not everyone is a cheater.
2006-06-23 17:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by epena86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about your Ego.
Your ego has been challenged. You feel hurt.
Hurt is a feeling. If you hold on to it, it exists. If you let go of it, it will vanish into space forever.
You have a free will of choice. You're the one who can make a change, nobody can force you from the outside.
It's all in your mind.
Whatever is created by your mind, can be *deleted* by your mind as well. Press the button "delete".
Afterall, what is gone cannot come back.
The future has not yet come.
What you're experiencing now, is real.
Life is to enjoy.
2006-06-23 17:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
date again.. I alos came from a traumatizing relationship, I was abused by my former boyfriend.. I recovered through dating again. I registered in this online dating site, webdatedotcom and I met a lot of friends there, until I met a guy I am now about to get married to.
2006-06-23 17:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by michelle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are no longer with her then realize it is not fair to judge other people according to how SHE treated you. Each person is only responsible for their own actions not your ex.
If you are with her still and want to get past it... consider counseling together. Also serving God together will help you both to learn and live in forgiveness. Wait until marriage for sex.
Kathy
2006-06-23 17:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by c2god2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't think about what she did when you are with someone else. Not every woman is decietful.
Maybe you should talk to her and tell her how this has effected you.....it may be all you need to get on with you life.
2006-06-23 17:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by angelcloudblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try counseling..it may help if u can talk to someone with a professionalism in giving advice. if it's been two years and u still haven't got over it then u really need to consider getting professional help.
2006-06-23 17:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by Pimpin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋