My husband doesn't want me???

Question

Me and my husband have together almost 3 years. We are both young and we had a great sex life when we were dating and the first year of our marriage. Now we have sex maybe 7-10 times a month sometimes more and i want it almost every night. He works 9-10 hours a day and when he gets home he is always tired and says he is wore out. He is pretty overweight and he had high blood pressure. I feel like he doesn't want to have sex with me and i cry alot about it, even though everynight when we got to bed he holds me and tells me he loves me and we play around(not sexually) But i want sex and it kills me that he doesn't. But he does get in these moods where he can't keep his hands off me. I need someones opinion?????

Answer 1

You have a faithful husband, he loves you, he works 8-10 hrs a day for your family. If he is too tired to have sex every night, you need to start masturbating. Sex is just a thing. A good, loving family is EVERYthing.

Answer 2

You should try working 9 -10 hours a day and see how much you feel like doing it. You should be grateful you get it 7 - 10 times a month.Are they quickies or is it knock your socks off awesome quality sex. I understand your intense feelings when he doesn't I been there it's hard to turn off the desire when you want it so bad.What you are going through happens it's normal. Try to get him in the bedroom a little earlier then you normally go to bed so you have extra time to tease him and get him excited but you might find that you should make the first move.It sounds like to me he is a great husband just over worked

Answer 3

I will tell you this, be glad he holds you...most men dont even do that. Right there would tell me...he is tired and wore out.
Being overweight is hard on the heart. Dont take this next statement the wrong way ok???
You would feel real bad if he & u were making love and he had a heart attack!
I hate to say it..I seen 2 hampsters do that...the oldest one fell right over and that was the end of that.
So just take it easy girl, if u stay with him for many more yrs you can have make love all you want even if its 7-10 times a month...the key to this is...your still making love to your (alive) husband.
Calm your self down a bit...and be blessed you still have him to hold you at night and for him to tell you he loves you.
God Bless.

Answer 4

Count your blessings, you will be suprised at how many you've got. 1) a man that works 2) a man that shows you affection 3) a pretty happy life all around and chances are he is going to be a great dad too, since he is affectionate. You are comparing apples and oranges. Your sexual appetite and his is just not the same, that has nothing to do with whether he "wants" you or not. To solve the sex thing do this. 1)go for quality, not quantity. 2)and if you absolutely have to have sex, buy a toy and do it when he is not around. Unless he is cool like that and it won't threaten his manhood.

Answer 5

Listen, just put urself in the same position as ur husband. what if u worked all day and is worn out in the night and ur husband demands sex from u no matter in what state u are? Understand this that girls crave for more than guys do. But it does not mean that he does not want u . Sex is part of LOVE making. And LOVe comes only if u UNDERSTAND each other..

I need to ask u something before u ask ur husband a question

Do u really love him for the person he is or is it that u ONLY WANT pleasure from him?

Answer 6

You sound very selfish, you say your husband works very hard, what do you do? Do you have a job? or do you sit around on your butt? And wait for him to come home? If that's the case get over it. Why aren't you out there working? does he put a roof over your head? Yes! What do you do for him other than complain! Do you have dinner ready when he gets home? No! Quit crying and do something for him. I'm a man that works 50 plus hours a week. But I know how tired that makes me. Good Luck! Reading your question makes me tired. Thank God you are not my wife! God bless your husband.

Answer 7

The pace slows a little each year as you are together. If you need more, can you get a job so he does not have to work so much, or try some new things, something to really spark his interest. It is also likely that his weight is affecting his sex drive, put him on a diet and exercise program, and you should see results.

Answer 8

The guy's sex drive diminishes later in life, and with the stressful job, you have to understand the lack of sex interest. It sounds like he does love you, it doesn't sound like the end of the relationship, just a change. I would invest in a great vibrater, and who knows, maybe it can invoke better sex. Beyond that, see if you can get him to eat healthier and possibly lose weight, the extra weight he is carrying is taxing, i think he would be more sexually active if he got a bit fitter.

Answer 9

It seems like he still really loves you. You have to take into consideration his health and stress from work. Being persistent about sex may be adding more stress. A guy has a hard time getting it up when highly stressed. Have you sat and talked to him? That is the first and biggest step! Communication!! If sex is a problem for him right now, get yourself a toy (they are fun, and my husband bought mine for me!). Do what you can to remove as much stress from his life as possible. Good luck!

Answer 10

There are a lot of factors that could account for his lack of a sex drive. Is he taking meds for high blood pressure, if so that will dramatically affect his sex drive.
Sex drives change over time.Men reach their peaks at an early age whereas women our drive gets stronger and stronger till we reach menopause.
Have a frank conversation about the change in the frequency of sex and allow him to share with you what his feelings are regarding the matter.
Good Luck!