Ok...I will try to make this as simple as I can. I am 22, he is 34, he is divorced and has a 5 year old son...we have been dating for a month and he is already determined to move me from Ohio to Indiana to be with him. It doesnt bother me that he has a son... but I am thinking that since he is older, he is in a rush to have a married life and be where he is supposed to be in his life... me on the other hand... I am 22 and I am in NO RUSH to make things move so fast... he wants me to meet his parents, become best friends with his sisters, meet his son, move to indiana with him, transfer schools...blah blah... am I wrong in thinking he doesnt know me enough to say all these things?...that he just wants a life that most 34 yr olds have?? (married and settled)..like hes playing catch up...HELP
2006-06-23 16:52:08 · 9 answers · asked by erynn8302 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you guys are right... if hes worth keeping then he will understand....thanks guys!!! XOXOX...
2006-06-23 17:05:36 · update #1
Tell him how you feel, and explain to him that not what you want. If thats not what you want. If he cares any about you, and wants to be with you he will understand. If not set him free, there's more fish in the sea....
2006-06-23 16:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by MeMyselfandI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A month is way too fast to be asking for all this. It would be a good idea to get to know his family. You might hate them and that would certainly help you make a decision, but you might love them as well. Either way, you will meet them sooner or later, you might as well make it sooner. Something that can be very revealing is why he got divorced. Was it mutual, his idea, her idea?
If you can, talk to his ex. She may be bitter and lie and make all kind of outrageous statements, or she may tell you what went wrong and the reasons she had to leave.
My personal rule of thumb, know a person at least a year before making any life-long commitment.
2006-06-24 00:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by wires 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are moving way too fast. You guys just started dating. Moving from one state to another to get serious with a guy that you barley know is a life changing thing, and is also a gamble. What if things dont work out? then you are stuck in India buy yourself with no one to turn to. I think that you should tell your man to slow down and wait a while to see where this relationship goes. If he is a guy worth keeping then he would have no problem waiting for you to move with him.
2006-06-24 00:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Bay Area Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 22 and still in school, what are you doing with a 34-year-old? Now is not the time, in my opinion, for you to be with someone with that much baggage. (This may sound a bit fatherly, but I'm kind of an old fart) Anyway, anyone who wants to move in with you after a month, let alone relocate your entire life, is trouble with a capital T-R-O-U-B-L-E. I'm sure you have strong feelings for him, but be very wary of him, his behavior and his intentions. It sounds very troubling.
2006-06-24 00:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by PEPERE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you dated? Have you dated at least a year before he asked you to do all of this? He is probably wanting marriage and kids right away.. he's in his prime time (if that makes sense). Tell him about it and see if there is some way to come to an agreement.
*I am in a very similar situation. Look at my last question if you'd like to.
2006-06-23 23:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the only one who has the power to slow things down. That's all you have to say is I like you but you're moving kinda fast
2006-06-24 00:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're not wrong!!! You absolutely correct! Don't you dare move in with him. If he wants to see you, he can come visit once in a while...The big baby. Don't let him manipulate you. And, Good for you for keeping your BRAIN "turned on" through "love"...most girls your age don't.
2006-06-24 00:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel!!
2006-06-24 00:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by eri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋