I have been with this guy for 3 years and we are engaged. But in the last year or so he has just turned into a pig. He's at the pub all day spending all my money, we had to move into his mothers house, and now i may be pregnant? What the hell should i do?
2006-06-23 16:46:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Relax. Sit down & write your priorities on a paper. What is it that you want to do ? Where do you see yourself , say 5 years down the life .
Talk to this guy. Make him understand what type of life you want and how you both have to work for it . He too has to make efforts . Else you have to move on because you have one life which you cant let go waste. He has to make a choice either a better life or a life without you . If he doesnt agree to change , you know its better to part ways .
2006-06-23 17:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For sure, DO NOT marry this guy. If he is this way now, it will only get worse if you marry him. Sounds like you have the job and he doesn't, so take your money and get the hell out of his mothers house and leave him there. So sorry to hear that you may be pregnant though, now he will always be involved in your life because of the child. Best of luck to you, bless you.
2006-06-24 01:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him the hell out of your mothers house, he's only going to get worse. Time for him to man up or move on. Better to be a strong single mum than bring up a child in a house full of hate, especially when he's controlling the finances and drinking
2006-06-23 23:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by smsgreaves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey, today women don't need men like they use to. Get out on your own when you can, and show him you are a better person than he is. If hes that irresponsible with money now, **** I'd hate to see after he gets married.. I would tell him in the mean time to get lost, and show him you mean business.. You and your mom can raise your widdle baby together.. Screw him. hes not worth your time. Pigs belong on the pig farm.. lol Good Luck
2006-06-23 23:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you gotta analyze if is he a pig like you said? I mean most of the time in a relationship there are some problems that are not big as you think, but I gotta tell you that if love it's gone , really gone then you have to talk to him for your own good. Put everything he has onto a scale and see which side it's heavier. Remember nobody,NOBODY IS PERFECT
2006-06-23 23:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Dulce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he abuses you, don't leave him, especially if you are pregnant. You will just become another statistic, another single mom. So many children these days don't have parents that are together, or a father who is active in their life. And this can cause lots of problems for the child later in life. But good luck in whatever you choose.
2006-06-23 23:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by mr.santacruz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider yourself too late- but make one last ditch effort. Sit him down and explain exactly what you wrote here,along with the consequences. Set a time limit of 6 months and if things change, have a nice life. If not, have a different one.
And get unlost.
2006-06-23 23:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by get_unlost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy then you are going to have to tell him that here is your ring but I am sorry and its better to do it now rather than after the wedding.
2006-06-24 00:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by simpli2die4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb and be a single parent.
2006-06-23 23:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come home and find you in bed with another man.
He'll get the hint.
2006-06-23 23:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋