my baby's coming soon, what should i do!?

Question

my baby's due date is july 3, and i don't think i'm ready for a baby!!! i know for a fact i am not going to get an abortion or put it up for adoption because it's my baby i just can't cope with the fact that there is ging to be tremendous pain! should i go natural or go for the epideral? i just hate needles! i know that me and my boyfriend are responsible enough to raise this baby, however the only problem is that i'm pregnant with my x-husband's baby and we were going though a divorce when i found out i was pregnant and i don't know if my boyfriend will love this child like i want him to(we have been going for 8 months). i'm really stressed and i want this baby to come out but if i am stressed and the baby feels it she won't come out and i will have to have her on my hands and knees!!!! i don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!

this is my little sister's profile, i'm 22 for the guys at the top of the answers.

Answer 1

honey relax!! if you cant handle the pain//i dont think the needle will bother you!! honey i bet you will Be great mom!! believe ME have a 4 month old and now it comes second nature to take care of them!! good luck!!

Answer 2

Well if you are due July3 I do think abortion is out of the question at this point!!??.....Anyways, if your boyfriend loves you then he will love your baby. If he doesnt than leave him now. Dont let him become a part of your child's life if he is not going to stay in it. Your child already has a father you are no longer with, no need to complicate it further, ya know? As far as the natural birth, I have no idea, both of mine were C-sections, now that is PAIN!!! So just go in undecided, and when the time comes you will decide. No need to stress about something like that. And last but not least, it is amazing how you just know what to do once your child is out and you hear that first cry. Within days you can determine what he is crying for..they sound very different. Stop worrying!!! Everything will be okay. Good Luck

Answer 3

Everyone gets a little scared right before they have there baby. I did and I knew I wanted a baby. I have always been good with kids and my daughter is wonderful now. I don't like needles either but when you are pregnant they stick you soo many times I just got used to it. I had an epideral and was fine. You really don't think about the pain afterwards and it seems like nothing to you later. Don't stress, everything will be fine and you will make it through childbirth just fine. I had a bar that came over the end of the bed so I could squat and push until the baby was ready to come out and it made it easier. Ask your doctor if your hospital will have this convienece and tell him/her about your feelings and stresses.

Answer 4

WOW, u are a nervous wreck girl! But I dont blame u tho, sounds like u have a lot on your plate. And not to scare u, but due dates arent always accurate, u might have the baby next week! But anyways, during labor the doctor can tell u if the baby is in distress and u wont have to have him/her on your knees (LOL) And if u do decide to get the epideral, u dont even have to see the needle, I didnt see it when they gave it to me. Maybe U and your boyfriend should do something special before the baby comes, maybe a romantic evening at home or get a suite somewhere (close to home) and just relax. It would also be in your best interest to get as much sleep as you can so u can be well rested when the baby comes.

Answer 5

Well, you sound VERY young to be going through something like this. It is WAY beyond any time for an abortion. I really think you need to start concentrating upon taking care of the baby, not who's going to play daddy. You need to be mommy & let what happens, happen. As far as labor goes, every one is different. You can't go into that delivery room with expectations, keep your options open to pain relievers. The baby will come when it's ready, you being stressed or not. Sounds like a bad situation your in, but like I said, your baby is first priority & your gonna have to grow up very fast.

Answer 6

well first of all take it slow. Tell your boyfriend slowly and calmly that it's your ex-husbands child. tell him how you feel about him and this child and how you think he is going to feel about his child that is about to be born into a very ruff and horrible world. I think that you should take the natural way because in the end it will all turn out in a better way. That is good your not gonna kill the child or give it away , because your gonna go through the labor so i think that you should raise your child how you want it to be raise. Don't nobody know it like you know it. It seems like you have a very smart head on your neck. Also start a account for in the long run.

Answer 7

Whoooaaa honey calm yourself.
Keep yourself busy. Make sure your house is clean, you have a good supply of easy to prepare meals, pack your hospital bag, make sure everything is ready for baby-diaper bag, nursery, car seat, etc.
The needles aren't that bad. I am terribly afraid of needles. Getting the IV was less than fun, but believe me-by the time it's time for the epidural, you won't care about the needle. When you get the epidural, they first numb the area with a small needle. When you get the actual epidural, all you feel is a bit of pressure. For me, it was well worth the relief (I had pitocin which made my contractions unbearable). Opting for medication is a purely personal choice. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for getting it done or tell you you HAVE to.
Just remember-relax and enjoy this. I love my daughter dearly (she is five months) but from time to time I do miss being pregnant. And really, the second that baby is in your arms, you will forget everything!

Answer 8

okj you need to sit down for a bit here,firstly i know how your feeling very anxiouse i have two babies,first time was easy 6 minutes it was over and done with no pain a small tiny baby boy,second time round i was absolutely terrified of labour and that made it worst,clear your head of those thoughts try to think the most positive you can,labour m ostly is painfull and all the rest,if in any time you feel that you dont want to go through with the natural thing ands you want an epidural then you have that choice i had one with my second and i swear by them that they are the most amazing thing ever created,when people give birth it is not always in the bed position of sitting up right many times it is on the floor,kneeled up or on a ball there are so many wasy you will know when your in the room what to do and how you will fel comfortable you dont have to put up with the pain if you dont want to,at the moment your bf might be mixed up feelings aboiut the baby,but once it is out he will cherish this child like no other and you watch he will be so protective of this child like his own dont let your ex get involved with the raising let your current beau be its father,you wont have to ask any questions or question your boy friend if he loves this child you will see for your self

Answer 9

It sounds to me as if you've had NO PRENATAL CARE WHATSOEVER, because if you had, then someone would have discussed everything with you already--especially your options for giving birth.

Or maybe you ARE under a doctor's care, and you're just afraid of the pain, even if it's just a little needle prick? Gosh, I wish that I could be sympathetic, but y'know--some stuff in life just plain hurts, and there's no avoiding it. You can't go around being a big baby about stuff like this. Good grief, go for the epidural and stop whining about it, already. I can sympathize with the rest of your problems, but not with that one.

So now you've got a week to go, and you're freaking out. I think that it's way more than a little bit late to start freaking out about this NOW.

And why would you even write that abortion is a possibility when you're "about to pop"? OF COURSE, you would't abort, and no doctor in his or her right mind would do it for you at this stage, even if that was what you wanted (--which you don't). (Have you been listenting to those pro-life people? They often go around implying that stupid, selfish women commonly abort babies when they're just about to give birth. --And I'm like, "No! DUH! No woman in her right mind would carry something right up to the point of giving birth and then ask to get rid of it--not unless it's got very severe birth defects that she hadn't known about beforehand. Puh-LEEZE!")

Anyway, back to the point of this post:

If you don't have prenatal care, then get a doctor. --As in, **NOW!** If you don't have money, then there are all sorts of prenatal programs for indigent women, because society-as-a-whole has an interest in ensuring that all babies are born healthy--so they fund programs to make sure that pregnant women who are poor and/or who don't have health care get the care that they need. If you don't know where to go, then a good place to go is to the offices where the county that you live in has their health department. Just look up your county in the phone book. Or even look up the words "Health Department," and just call their switchboard.

Now, as for what to do with you baby once s/he's born: You can get free help from Social Services. If you're not yet ready to be a mother, then they can send someone over to help show you what you need to know. Or, alternately, you can put your baby into foster care until things get settled for you. And, if you change your mind and decide to adopt-out, I think you've got six months after the adoption to change your mind. You have all sorts of options, and there are all sorts of people in the government who are there to help you and your baby. After all, that's why we all pay taxes. It'd be great for you to get some benefits back from those taxes that you've been paying into all your life, no? So, as the Nike ad says, "Just Do It."

Answer 10

Calm down.

You're going to be okay.

Compared to the pain of labor, an epidural is nothing. I had one and it made labor a piece of cake. I closed my eyes so I could avoid the sight of the needle. I was fine.

The baby will come out on its own (usually) when it's ready. Then you'll wish you could stuff it back in...sometimes. LOL Enjoy your pregnancy. Raising 'em is the hard part.

Answer 11

If your b/f loves you he will love the baby also. Have the baby natural it will be well worth it. I had two kids one with the epideral that hurt like HELL anyways and another without anything and still hurt like hell. But at the end you wont even care how much it hurt when your holding that butiful child in your arms.