was attack my parenting skills. as a result, I had very little confidence in this area of my life. 3 yrs on and doing well, except now its my mum who attacks me when I dont do what she wants or I disagree with her on something. I feel like its one step forward, and three steps back! I wouldn't mind so much if she didn't also then interfere and arrange to take my kids places etc behind my back. Waht should I do?
2006-06-23 16:35:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Express to your mother how frustrating it is for her to continously nag you about the way you are raising your kids. Make sure that you as a parent are doing the best by your kids. As a mother, she will always give advice. Accept the advice that you can use, disregard anything else.
2006-06-23 16:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the first thing is to 'BE A PARENT", not your mom's or anyone else' "child".
Do you live with her? Is she responsible for your financial support? Insurance?, Do you drive her car? Does she feed you, pay your bills?
If the answer to any of the above is "NO", then I strongly suggest that you takes some classes on parenting. Look, it is really not that big of a deal. You didn't know how to write until someone taught you, so how can you expect to know how to be a good parent unless someone shows you? Doesn't sound like your mom did a very good job, "showing you", so let the professionals help. It will build your confidence and self esteem, so why not?
As to your mom, tell her exactly how you feel, if she doesn't like it, too bad, so sad..
However, she will come around, she will want to see her grand-kids. When she does, you hold the aces in your hand... Then set the rules and make damn sure you, the kids and especially her FOLLOW THEM. Your kids will respect you so much more for it as well.
2006-06-23 16:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by jv1104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't slip back now, after all your effort, Stand up to her, tell her, they are your kids, and your responsibility. Tell her if she doesn't butt out, you will stop the children seeing her at all.
And stick to your guys. If you have to, take some parenting classes at night school, or check out some books in the library.
With children, the night school may be a bit too much, but there is a score of good books, in the Library, ask the librarian for recommendations.
2006-06-23 16:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the best love is hard love if u live with ur mom move and move on with your life and tell your mom that you are a woman now and this is ur kids to help u feel better pick up a couple of parenting books or the parenting magazine u will find everything u do is ok god bless
2006-06-23 16:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by jcleann13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away from her if you can. Tell her that if she keeps interfering she won't be allowed to see the kids. You have to set an example for the children by being strong and standing up for yourself. Otherwise, I guarantee they will push you around, too, when they get older.
2006-06-23 16:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself and not be such a victim. You should seek counseling to learn tecniques to improve your self-estteem and self-confidence.
2006-06-23 16:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to put as much distance between you, the ex and the mum...and tell her if she can't treat you any better than that, to leave you alone until she can. please get some counseling, or talk to your priest or trusted friend. don,t let them wage war on you because they can...beleive in yourself, and please get some help.
2006-06-23 16:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by sharpsilver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋