my b/f chats online w/ other females and he can't understand y i'm upset w/ him... and plus he uses my webcam

Question

when i met my b/f i knew that he had friends online, but i have learned that all of them are females, he likes to the webcam to chat with them. he says i'm jealous that he's doing this and that if it was the other way around he wouldn't be. i'm not jealous i'm just not a trusting person when it comes to certain things and that is one of them. i have even gotten to the point of logging into his account to read his offline messages and have also set it up so that i can read any of his messages that he does in im. am i wrong on being supesious or am i not

Answer 1

Get a grip.You need to grow up.You are jealous. "Not a trusting person about certain things".Dump him if you don't like it.You can be my friend on 360 if you're over 18.Start a 360 page and put some photos on there - some GOOD photos if you get my drift.See how he likes that .

Answer 2

I don't personally think what he is doing is respectful of your feelings BUT your problem is not his behavior - it's your own deep insecurity and 'jealousy' (another word for insecurity!). You would not have a jealous or suspicious reaction to what he does if you were a self confident/self respecting person. You might confront him about what he does that you don't like and if he doesn't work with you on it, you'd take your high self worth and move on to a better partner who is digified like you would be if you got over being jealous and insecure about your self. You are your problem and your low self worth will follow you into any relationship regardless of what kind of partner you have. You need to work on the relationship you have with your self or you won't be fit to be in a healthy, happy relationship with anyone. Once you get okay with you, everything will fall into place and you'll attract a high self worth, loving partner instead of the low life you seem to be connected to now. It's also possible that when you get okay with yourself, your current partner will change to being more loving and respectful of you. Good luck.

Answer 3

There isn't anything wrong with checking his messages alot of girls snoop from time to time. But the real problem is that your guy is chating with other females, that isn't good, especially if you dont like it. You need to tell your guy that he needs to stop chating with other girls on line, if he doesn't stop then it is time to move on to a guy that will treat you better.