He said he isn't happy and it's my fault. Lately he's had problems with his long time job and his 19 year old daughter (from a previous marriage) moved in about a year ago. She has an infant. He babysits and fails to get enough sleep and gets cranky with me. My husband has started to discuss things with my stepdaughter that he should be discussing with me. He's excluding me from matters involving my home as if I'm no longer there! They do sneaky things to me in an effort to make me angry or humiliate me. My husband has always used his children to back him up to get back at me if I say or do anything he doesn't like such as complain about his children. I think he won't leave because he can't afford to do without my income. I can't live like this any longer. I still love my husband of 14 years but want his daughter out of my home. He refuses to go to a marriage counselor. What can I do to get my life back the way it was - or at least close?
2006-06-23 16:30:02 · 17 answers · asked by alexxandra114 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well - it doesn't sound like you can... so just move on. By your own admission, it sounds like you're the one who's better off, with a job and all. It'll suck and it may be the hardest decision of your life, but sometimes people are a drag on your emotions and need to be cut off. No matter how much you may love him, he doesn't love you. Stick up for yourself and show him and his daughter the door.
2006-06-23 16:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want a marriage, he wants a financial arrangement. I would so kick him to the curb. How disrespectful he is being to you. You don't deserves such bad treatment from him. He wants this arrangement, because he knows the judge will award you the house, the children, child support and alimony, plus half his retirement. Don't let him get away with this. He wants a divorce than out he goes to the street. He won't think it is such a cool thing, when he has to struggle to make ends meet in his new tiny apartment with all his money going to you. He deserves to suffer. He promised to stay married to you until death do you part. He wants his cake and eat it too. Probably has some young bimbo on the side. You need to accept who he really is, not the fantasy you have been living with all these years. Now you see the real him. You will be absolutely miserable with a financial arrangement. Kick him to the curb!!!
2016-03-27 02:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he wants to continue to live together because he needs your income! That's bullsh*t! If he wants a divorce, then tell him it's time to live apart. It's not fair to you to have to live the way that your living. He's using his daughter to hurt you even more. Sorry sweety, but I don't think your going to get your life back the way it was. Not even close. He's told you he wants a divorce, he's told you it's all your fault and he uses his daughter against you. I'm sure you still love him, but if he refuses to get marriage counseling what choice do you have other than to move on? Sorry for you. Best of luck.
2006-06-23 19:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he isn't happy then hit the road. Why would you give him a divorce but then help support him and his child and grandchild. Let me guess.. You still get the honor of doing all the cooking and cleaning, too. What a guy!
(By the way... what is his daughter doing while he is babysitting?)
Does she even have a job????
2006-06-23 16:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Chris M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is too late for a marriage counselor. It sounds more like they are trying to drive you out of the house. File for divorce and send him and his daughter packing.
2006-06-23 17:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you're in a no win situation, you just have to hope the daughter n law wants her Dad to be happy and move her spoiled a___ out! If not screw all them and don't let neither of them stay with you either.
2006-06-23 16:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that either his daughter should move out to live by herself or both him and his daughter should get out of your house.
2006-06-23 16:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by chd.tran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would proceed with the divorce, move out and start a new. It sounds like this guy has some isseues with himself and he is taking it out on you.
Leave and count your blessings.
2006-06-23 16:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KOOL THAT CAN BE THE BEST THING FOR U AND THE KIDS. SO DONT TRIP JUST BE DESCRETE AND DONT HAVE COMPANY OVER AND WHEN U R GETTING ALL DRESSED UP GOING OUT ON A DATE AND HE ASKED WHERE U R GOING TELL HIM WHERE HE SHOULD HAVE TOOK U.
2006-06-23 16:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by oaklandkc1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, get a divorce and get out of their. It sounds like they treat you poorly and you should just move on.
2006-06-23 16:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋