What if your fiancee was paying on a ring for you,but it cost a small fortune and he really can't afford it right now?He is trying to get it for you before you move 3000 miles away to start college,but you want to tell him not to bother because of a lot of reasons.What do you do?
2006-06-23 16:01:21 · 6 answers · asked by candy_apple033 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him that you would be just as happy with a less expensive one. A promise ring even. You can buy one of those for a couple of hundred dollars. Tell him that you don't need an expensive ring to let you know how much he loves you. And that you will be just a committed to him without it. Tell him that with you going to college it will be awhile before you would want to get married anyway. Tell him that when he does propose that you want both he and yourself to be financially stable. Not pinching pennies just to afford a ring that is really not nessecary. Let him know that you going to college isn't the end of your relationship, it is a means for a brighter future. A future that would mean a stronger bond between the two of you and the education that is needed to support a family now days. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you. God bless.
2006-06-23 16:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's scared that if he doesn't get you something significant to tie you to him before you go away he's going to lose you. Reading between the lines it sounds like you're not sure you want to tie yourself down at the point in your life and if that's right than you shouldn't. You guys are so young. Let him know you care for him but he should hold off on the ring right now and see how things are going this time next year. Good Luck and have fun.
2006-06-23 16:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him honestly that you can't get married. If he can't afford a ring he can't afford to get married and the two'z of you won't last in a marriage.
You both are clearly not ready and I think you need to be honest and clear with him on this. Don't lie or try to weazel your way out, he is doing the best he can, and is deserving of your utmost honesty. There is no reason you both can't continue to have a relationship, but the two of you need to be in a better place financially before marriage. Good Luck to you both.
2006-06-23 16:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by You got Moxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go buy a $40 Silver Band from James Avery or something. Wear it until you are able to do something bigger...if you still want to.
Don't add a huge debt to a new engagement. It's just not worth it. I could be wearing a bubble-gum wrapper on my finger and it'd mean just as much.
2006-06-23 16:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could make him a ring out of string and tin foil, and when you give it to him, say that he doesn't have to buy you an expensive ring right now, you'd be just as happy if he made you something.
That, or tell him what you told us.
2006-06-23 16:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you told us. Just tell him to wait and save up.
2006-06-23 16:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋