My ex bf wants us to get very serious (engagement and planning a wedding serious) but I wonder if I should let the guy who went to study in Europe, that I may soon be off the market. I was hurt when he left and said that he wanted to pick up where we were after he finished his two years of study. Part of me says I should call him now and give him one chance to stop me while another part of me says I should write him a long letter, send it the slowest possible way and tell him that by the time he reads this I will be picking out china patterns and getting fitted with my wedding dress. What does the guy in Europe deserve.
Jenny
2006-06-23 15:55:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey lady, you are like a married woman. This is like a married life. Can't you just accept it? How about the boyfriend who just suddenly appears? How reliable can he be? You may end up loosing both and a lot of money.
You should not go to your new boyfriend. You should give your boyfriend a scolding. Maybe threaten to leave him.
2006-06-24 01:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Man_Hat_Tan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question would be why did you and your ex-boyfriend break it off in the first place? Think carefully about it.
You have a guy who, though he's gone off to Europe to study, obviously wants more to come back and be with you. Think about it, he's gone to study so that when he comes back he'll be a good provider.
You have your ex-boyfriend on the other hand who either broke up with you or you broke up with for some reason or other. If you had a good reason to break up then, you will still have that reason now and there is a good chance it won't work out right.
Let's put it this way: who do you care for more? But in all honesty, your guy in Europe deserves to know at the very least what's going on. If you write him that long letter and send it as slow as possible, it's like you didn't care about him enough to let him know what was happening in your heart conserning your feelings for him.
2006-06-23 23:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't about the guy in Europe or the guy with you - this is about you. Who do you love? Do you still have feelings for the guy in Europe? If you do, you shouldn't be getting married to another man until you work through those feelings and fall in love with this other guy.
Granted, the guy who went off to Europe did leave you- and possibly unnecessarily. Him expecting you to wait for him for 2yrs then come back and everything be the same was kind of lame. If you feel that you love your ex and you want to get married to him then you need to do whats best for you.
Don't look to shove it in anyone's face - write the guy in Europe a letter or an email - whatever you think is better and tell him the situation. Let him know that you and you ex are reconciling and getting ready to get married and start a life together. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-06-23 23:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your ex is just all of a sudden wanting to marry you... doesn't that seem strange? I think if you love the other guy you should wait for him... but if you love your ex I guess you should just marry him if thats how you feel about him. I still think you maybe should give the Europe guy a chance... maybe even asking him if he really does want to start your relationship back up when he comes back or if he just said that and just left and wasn't planning on picking your relationship back up.
2006-06-23 23:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by marimbalover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love either one of these guys or do you just want to get married and have a pretty dress with nice china patterns?
2006-06-23 22:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby is from India and he IM me when he can. There should not be a reason not to be with him unless he cheated or something. Hang on to him. My hubby goes to school and works hard to be with me. And I never had someone like that before. Girls give up to quick on guys that are true. Don't be like that.
2006-06-23 23:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by catmenacestop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either you are a player or opportunist.
2006-06-23 22:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋