My friend is going to be a senior this year, and her dad suddenly passed yesterday and I don't know what to do for her
2006-06-23 15:18:51 · 27 answers · asked by QWERTY! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be there. Make sure that she knows that you are her freind and that you are ready to support her through this hard time. She just needs someone to lean on right now, and you can be that person.
2006-06-23 15:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of my best friend's fathers have passed away. You just need to be there for her whenever she needs you. Listen to her. Let her cry on your shoulder. Remind her of the wonderful person that he was and the good times that they had together. Let her direct the conversation. Let her be angry, it is not fair, let her be sad that SHE is now without a loved one. But remind her that HE is in a much better place and is not suffering at all and that he will always be with her. Every once in a while, ask if there is anything you can do. Usually, there is nothing to do but just give your physical presence to comfort her.
2006-06-23 15:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by absolutedejavu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be hard to understand if you havent lost a parent on what to do to comfort someone. Give her a big hug and tell her that your there for her. She will probably need to talk about what she is feeling. If she needs to talk at 3 AM or whatever, tell her to call you. Or if that doesnt work, just spend time with her and let her know that she isnt alone. Suggest a support group if she seems to have a hard time later on dealing with everything.
2006-06-23 15:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by sexygyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are her best friend, then you'll serve her best by just being there. You two didn't become best friends just for the heck of it. The two of you click! You've been there for each other through thick and thin, and this is one of those times that she'll look back and thank you for all you did...and all you had to do what was you do best already....be her friend. You'll gladly lend your ear, and shoulder, and she'll need it in this time of loss. Death is one of the hardest parts of life to go through. But a best friend can really help get you through. You won't need to do anything speacial. Just be you. That's why you two are best friends in the first place.
My condolences to your friend.
2006-06-23 15:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by kadara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not anything you can do or say that will make her feel better. What I do know is that she appreciates the fact that you are there even if it's to cry with her, hug her or hold her hand. So ofter people try to say comforting words when in reality the grieving person doesn't want to hear anything and they don't want to talk. Just be there for her and that will be more than enough.
2006-06-23 15:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by whatIthink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's terrible news and frustrating for you, because there's nothing you can say to make this any better. But you can be there. Let her know that you will be there for her in any way she needs...to listen, to collect homework, to get her out of the house when she needs a break, or to simply give her a little space to grieve. She's going to need you...and she'll let you know how and when; just keep the door open for her and be patient.
2006-06-23 15:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by SurferRose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a hug. Tell her everything will be OK. Tell her she doesn't have to talk about it if she doesn't want to but you are there for her if she wants to talk.
Tell her that it's OK to call you ANYTIME even at 3 in the morning.
Many people can't sleep after such tragedy and just need to talk to someone who cares about them.
Also ask her if there is ANYTHING you can do for her. Even going to the store for her will be helpful - she won't feel like going out in public for a while.
2006-06-23 15:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by supersmileyface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you're there for her. But usually they don't voice their needs because they're in shock. You can do things like take her shopping for something to wear to the service. People bring food for dinner, but people forget about breakfast. Bring some bagels & coffee for the family. Volunteer to notify friends who don't know about the death yet. There are a million things to do. In the weeks to come call and stop by to check on her. This are just come suggestions I hope they help.
2006-06-23 15:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't smother her, she has to grieve for her father, there are no words that can describe the loss that she is going thru, just be there for her and let her know you are there for her for anything, whether it is to talk or just give her a hug or she may not even want to talk, but to know that you are there
2006-06-23 15:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mama P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st u would tell her ur vry sry for her lost try to remember all the good times that u shared with him an know that he is in a peaceful place an always keep in mind he wil always be looking down to keeep her safe an sound its vry diffcult at that moment
2006-06-23 15:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mingsi L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋