Did he lose his second chance?

Question

My husband of 7 years cheated on me 1,5 ago. After my discovery he was begging for mercy asking not to divorce him and to give him a second chance. He was saying he loves only me and wants to be only with me. We have 3 year old child, so we kept the marriage.
I just discovered he found his ex-girlfriend online and started emailing her, saying he still thinks about her daily, misses her and wants to see her to “catch up on things”. He did not get far this is, because I discovered it in very early stage. Did he lose his second chance?

Answer 1

Yes, he messed up! he broke his promise to you. Although he did not cheat this time, it was only cause he got stopped early. Dump him, and move on. You deserve better! He lost his second chance!

Answer 2

Shame on him the first time and shame on you the second time. There are no second chances. This man apparently didn't learn anything the first time. You only fight for your man once. If you have to fight a second time, then your telling him to do whatever he wants and then cry mercy. If he loves only you then why would he do this to you. Your man is going to do what you allow him to do. Don't allow him to do this again. Walk away and teach him a lesson. Maybe a separation will be the best thing. There are other men that you wouldnt even have to put up one fight. They'll love and respect you always. The vows have been broken, with the trust. Not once but twice so the relationship that you love is over anyway. It will never be the same. The feelings will never be the same and do you honestly want to spend the rest of your life worring if he is doing something again? Do you really want to have to keep looking and thinking about what your going to find next. He doesnt deserve to be married to you. Keep your head up and let someone else have you, that deserves you. Good luck, and I hope things work out the way you want them.

Answer 3

Indeed in my opinion he has lost his chance again for the second time. I know it will be hard, but you must let him go. Truth of the matter he might so called "love" you, but that doesn't mean he needs to cheat on you for whatever reason he claims on why he did so. It seems that he doesn't know what he has at home and chooses to go a different route which is defiantly unfair exspecially having a child. No one deserves to be cheated on. If he loved you like he said he does (again), then why is/did he hide the fact of communicating with his ex. Not good at all. I hate to say it, but you need to divorce/separate from him. Like I said, i know it is easier said then done, but think of your future and a women in general, a daughter, and exspecially a mother. People that care for you do not want to see you hurt or lets say down and depressed worrying if your husband is cheating on you again. No one needs or deserves that stress. Raise your child and look toward the future. The best of wishes!!

Answer 4

It's been my experience that the old cliche "once a cheater, always a cheater" stands true. Your husband has a wandering eye. And with the thought of losing his base (you) he thought that he could fix the problem within himself and obviously couldn't. This is not to say that he is a bad guy - he is human and has his own issues. But you don't have to stay around and wait for him to deal with them. A person who does, doesn't respect themselves as much as they claim they do. Trust me girl, I was there 8 months ago. The last thing you need is to always wonder about him and what he is saying. That isn't a marriage you need to be in. And your child doesn't need to be in a home that is filled with that kind of resentment and doubt. Studies have shown that divorce is easier for a child to overcome than a bad marriage.

Answer 5

DUMP THAT WHORE HUSBAND. You should change the locks when he's a work and have his clothes in garbage bags on the front lawn marked "These clothes belong to an ADULTERER!" and then print out the emails.

Imagine how many emails you DIDN"T find cause you were too busy washing his dirty underware,or being the mother of HIS child or cooking his dinner, or sucking his c0ck? How many times do you think you wrapped your mouth around him and it had another woman's p*ssy residue on it?! Think about it, if you cheated that's exactly how he'd treat you...he'd kick you to the curb faster than an old newpaper!

DUMP HIM! Or your daughter will think that behaviour is okay.

ALSO, it's the only sanctioned reason in the Bible a woman can divorce her husband.

Answer 6

Don't listen to that satisfy him and he won't wander bull s. Some people have deeper issues, and are just selfish people who will always cave into whatever they so desire at the moment, no matter how it will hurt others, themselves etc. Some people live their lives with no discipline, and these kind of people are NOT good in relationships. Sounds like this is what kind of person your husband is - he loves you, but he felt like he missed his ex-girlfriend, so he called her and told her. He didn't seem to think about how that would hurt you, or care about the consequences, AGAIN. Hell yes he lost his second chance! This guy made a conscious decision to call up someone he was involved with and engage in inappropriate conversation with her! And what do you think he's going to do when he sees her? Obviously he's going to have sex with her again. He made the mistake before and obviously didn't learn from it. He's not going to learn from this one either, get rid of him.

P.S. I totally agree with anjelcake

Answer 7

Time to split - All Time Low/ Blink 182 Make you Smile - +40 4 nevertheless round - 3OH!3 the position were you - each street he wasn'tt - avril lavigne the breakup music - american radio set over again - LFO telephone call - continually the sickest youngsters Teardrops on my guitar -taylor quickly now that we are finished - Metro station you left me - the maine Fell in love without you - action city soundtrack

Answer 8

well thts something you needa be asking yourself.. we dont know how you feel ..do you love him ?can you trust him ? what are you lacking in marriage that he is trying to get from her ? I been there done that and cant explain that but you gotta do what makes you happy .. dont listen to everyone when they say leave cuz most of them havent experianced it so they cant relate to you .. just remember everyone makes mistakes noone is perfect .. if you love this man its ok to put your pride aside and try to make it work (if) its something you want to do .. its not easy im doing it now but if you really love him it can be done .. but i will tell you this its not easy finding it in urself to trust in him once again its gonna take alot of time ..but if you can forgive him then you can make it work ..but its not good to throw it in his face later.. if you cant forgive him then it might be a good idea to let him go ? sometimes its better to hurt for a lil while then to keep on hurting urself in a realtionship wer only ur trying its hard mentally and physically ..so ask yourself if your up for the challenge?? its sad when kids are involved.. sweety do what makes you happy ..and always be honest with yourself..The truth will set you free !!!

Answer 9

you tried your best to give him a second chance and look what he did with it. you should get out before he starts sleeping with her if he hasn't already. he doesn't deserve another another chance, you should have gotten rid of him the first time. good luck and take care

Answer 10

yes he did,he got caught if he didnt he still would be chatting to her and meeting up with her and then what do you think ws going to come next? you need to leave him and move on with your life you dont need aman in your life just because he is your childs father,he can see your son but he doesnt need to lie and cheat on you,be free to find your one true soal mate