i had divorce couple of weeks back and my ex keep calling me and begging me to come back and if u wont come back i ll gona kill myself i am really stressed what to do i dont want to go back cuz he used to beat me and i dont want to suffer again but he is really making me crazy what do i do to get rid of him please help me .
2006-06-23 14:52:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank goodness you divorced this man. Change your phone numbers, move out of the area if possible. Get a restraining order against him. He is a weak human being and is trying to bring you down to his level. He needs to get some professional help and you are not the one to do it. Move on with your life and don't let his little threats of killing himself concern you. You cannot help him.
2006-06-23 15:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru the same thing with my husband and we aren't even divorced yet, it's been over a year. You won't believe the things he dun to me. He put his nude picture on the internet and he is 55 years old and we were still married. Tried to blame me for everything. There is no real answer except, " Do you want to go back to that crap" Don't fall for it, he will only stab you in the back again. I have been physically, verbaly and emotionally abused over and over again.
2006-06-23 22:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mama P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not your problem any more!!! that's why you got a divorce!!
this is a control issue and if he continues to harass you, get a restraining order against him!! change your phone number!! change jobs!! move if you have to . its your life now and YOU are in control!!not him. you can have a terrific life with out him,I know I've been there. this is a last pitch effort to hold on to your fragile emotions and you are better than that!! You ARE in control
good luck.
2006-06-23 22:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by alohalilreddiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have done the hard part by leaving but if he is claiming to kill himself tell him to do what he needs to do cuz he just wants u back to beat on u some more he isnt worth it cuz he is only bluffing u any ways so ignore him dont talk to him
2006-06-24 02:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by keli2829 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't have children, first of all. Second, reach out for help by contacting the police. They can help you.
You cannot control what he will do to himself or TO YOU, however, you can control what YOU are going to do, and what you are going to do is take care of yourself and kids, if you have them and you are NEVER going to let someone like this take over your life again. It is better to be safe than sorry. How many times have we seen women (and kids) get murdered by ex-husbands, husbands, boyfriends, whatever. Don't let this be you.
2006-06-23 23:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by catsreadblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take his calls, don't interact with him. Anything you say to him will only encourage him to continue to harrass you. He is throwing out the "I'll kill myself" card because he knows you are a nice person and that you might be manipulated by such a threat. If he kills himself, it wasn't your fault.
Your work is done with him. He is someone you used to know. Nothing else.
2006-06-23 22:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the answers that you have gotten so far are pretty much the same and they are right. Tell him that he is full of it. Your not with him now right? So why is he still alive??? Get you a restraining Order. Go to the police!!!!!
2006-06-23 22:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you change all your numbers,dont call him anymore,and in the mean time you get an intervention order on him and then thats final dont feel bad about what he says he is going to do it is his way of controlling you and if he does well thats his bad luck not yours you made the biggest step to leave him good for you,enjoy your life now is your time to mov eon
2006-06-23 22:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever come back he is sick and problematic. Just don't answer the phone and never talk to him anymore. I bet you HE WILL NOT GOING TO TAKE SUICIDE HE IS JUST ONLY WANT TO MAKE YOU AFRAID. Just don't talk with him anymore or see him anymore. Time heal wounds and when time had come he will forget you and you will forget him too. Go on with your life.
2006-06-23 23:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by NONE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is manipulating you with threats of suicide and trying to regain control of you.... Tell him that you are sorry that he values his life so little and suggest counseling. Move on and ignore him! Only he is responsible for his actions and the consequences of them. If you give in to his manipulative tactics - he accomplished his goal and his pay-off is your submission. Good luck!
2006-06-23 22:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mattie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋