2006-06-23 14:49:07 · 22 answers · asked by sissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Introducing a relationship to poligamy is frought with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundemental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-06-29 01:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, is your husband just wanting you to be the recipetant as far as receiving DP(double penatration) watch, etc. You would need to decide are you all fulll swap or soft swap? Full swap meaning you go all the way with penatration and all. Soft swap you only go as far as kissing, oral, etc no penatration. If so it is very common but not announced openly in the community. It is called the lifestyle and there are many sights on the web and depending were you are from possibly a half a dozen clubs that offer this service to customers in your region. The bars information is usually kept amonst the swingers themselves and are very interesting places to visit even you are not into the lifestyle. This reason being it tends to spice up a relationship with your sunificant other watching some of the things that goes on.. Personaly I dont recomend it. Getting into the lifestyle. One and most inportently it will test your relationship. Meaning it could lead to problems. Two if you get yours even though it was his idea, what is goin to be your reply when he says ok my turn and wants to do another woman? Three what if he doesnt turn him on instead he becomes jealous because of this guy satifying you more, being more well endowed, etc. Four It is very very risky, we are talking about people who sometimes sleep with 1 or more cples or singles a weekend increasing your chances of catching a STD greatly. My partener and I were only in it for about 8 months and in that time I was with 10 different woman, her less men but this alone increased our chances greatly and we were picky about our parteners. Some people are not. We got out of it and didnt persue it anyfurther. About the only thing that will come of it is great parties, interesting friends and an ego because of the feeling of being attractive by others.. Now if your husband is wanting to be fondled as well by this other male. It doesnt actually mean he is gay but he would be considered Bi-sexual. That is something only you and him can work on. It is not uncommon in the lifestyle. It is out there not very popalar and will deter alot of responses on the websites. Most inpotently again if he is bi, it will even more so increase the chances of catching an STD. I hope this has helped a lil. If you have any questions or he does feel free to write me at briant311973@yahoo.com and I will try to help anyway possible.
2006-06-23 15:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by Brian T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. People are so narrow-minded! He wants to do this because he wants to see you get "done" by another man. He isn't gay. I know two men like this. Different things turn on different people! Some guys just really like to see somebody else sticking it to their woman. I agree though, it sounds like you're not too good on the communication part, which isn't a good recipe for sex with multiple partners. I would suggest that you watch an "adult" film with two men and one woman or read some stories in Penthouse letters. If you do decide to go through with this, then you will have more of an idea what to expect and what is expected from you. And remember, this is only sex. What is driving your husband to want to do this is purely sexual desire. It has nothing to do with love or frilly emotions. This is just sex.
2006-06-23 15:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by catsreadblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my initial thought was that he probably is a bisexual, but actually, sometimes it's all about voyeurism. He may get excited at the thought of another man giving you sexual pleasure. Ask him if he wants it to be a regular threesome, or just a guys on girl thing. If he wants a regular threesome then maybe he's bisexual afterall.
2006-06-23 15:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by love2utam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to these people. If he wants a 3some with you and another man...that doesnt make him gay. It is quite normal for 2 men to have sex with a woman and never touch each other.
If there is something about this that is bothering you...you should ask your husband.
The mere fact that you have to ask this question HERE instead of your husband , leads me to believe that your communication with him isnt good enough to even consider the 3 some anyway.
2006-06-23 15:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by texasmiss2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fantasy is not him having sex with another guy, it's the two men having sex with YOU. He may just want the thrill of watching another man and you or the two of them having you at the same time. Sounds like fun!
2006-06-23 15:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey your husband is gay if he wants you to have a threesome with another guy and it's probably someone he's been seeing.
2006-06-23 14:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by whatIthink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh! sounds like trouble! Most guys fantasy is with two women, not another man and 1 woman! His is backwards!
2006-06-23 15:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty Kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yucks! If he requests for you and another girl, I can understand. But with another guy!? I seriously think the others are right. He may (is) gay. Sorry girl. You may probably want to seek marriage counselling together with him.
2006-06-23 15:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by Gal-alive? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be that he's gay. how about that. but would it matter if it was a man or a woman ? I mean.. sex is sex... but love is love you can love to have sex or have sex because you love.
two men and one woman can be love for some.
Can it be love for you?
Two men and one woman can be awsome sex.
Can it just be awsome sex for you?
I guess what im trying to say is... he's having fantasies of another guy because he wants to be with you AND another guy !
It floats his boat.
2006-06-23 15:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by BeezKneez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋