He lied to me regarding approximately $1000 and about $250 in gambling money. Is that worth calling off a wedding?
2006-06-23 14:46:25 · 9 answers · asked by Sarrah 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would definitely say, nip this problem in the *** before you get married. Believe me, it is much easier to get married than it is to divorce. If he will lie about money, chances are, he wouldn't have a problem lying to you about other things. On the other hand, try to be receptive, and understanding, so he is more apt to tell you the truth in the future.
2006-06-23 14:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by nellieb_959 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Money and sex - the two most common things married couples argue about! It's a fact. While I can't tell you what you should or you shouldn't do, because this is only one tidbit of information - where he is completely wrong, the decision is ultimately yours. So many different things can be forgiven if it's really truly meant to be, even money and/or sex! But you've got to believe it in your own heart, and beyond everything else in a marriage, there needs to be a significant level of trust. Can you still trust him totally, and completely? I understand if you can't and don't blame you a bit for it either! If it was me... Unless I could trust that person completely, I would at the very least delay the marriage for him to prove himself to be worthy of my trust again. Good luck to both of you!
2006-06-23 14:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your fiance, need to sit down and talk about that. If its a problem for him and he cant control himself, he should take counseling. As for the wedding, you shouldnt. You love him not the money, and you can help him with that problem.
2006-06-23 14:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by insight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is lying to you now before you are married, he will continue to lie after you marry him. Postpone the wedding until you work this out with him.
2006-06-23 14:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. He's proving he's not a trust worthy person by lying and gambling.
2006-06-23 14:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kicking him out is the incorrect ingredient to do, make him do stupid gamblers nameless training, or enable him to designate a "entertainment" part of his funds, on playing. Make it sparkling he has to earn his very own playing funds, finally hell stop whilst it turns into to huge of a hassle. His want to gamble is derived from a concern someplace in his existence, in all probability a loss of activity, or melancholy. help him or he will fail, and use your emotions in direction of one yet another as leverage to alter him, yet you need to accomplish that and administration his playing. keep in mind that he hid it from you because of the fact he advance into ashamed, he didnt act like it advance right into a concern because of the fact he's in a state of lack of expertise, hes in certainty blockading his very own concious. yet i think of, take care of all your substances, and supply him playing allowance, set up so which you may have a definite volume of income to stay to tell the story, you need to be waiting to pay charges, and set up precisely how lots each and each of you may locate the money for to apply up wastefully per thirty days. make him function interior of specific regulations. make him carry receipts of his losses, and his winnings, on no account reward winnings, purely compliment him whilst he doesnt pass and blow all his funds on ineffective issues. attempt making him spend each and all the money he might have regularly gambled away, on something smart or in any different case compulsive. if he spends one thousand, make him purchase something nicely worth one thousand, locate him a pastime he can spend huge quantities on, make him purchase a flatscreen television, or an xbox along with his playing funds, make him comprehend the fee of funds. supply him a pastime the place he gambles his time greater effective than his funds.
2016-10-31 09:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by basinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep
2006-06-23 15:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is...run while you can because it will become your debt later in life...the debts ad up and then you will feel the pain...run while you can while you have your dignity and sanity...if the lies had started already before the marriage, the lies and deciet will continue and ruin you!!!
2006-06-23 14:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by joy ride 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you bet cha...there are more fish in that river that won't lie or gamble...good luck
2006-06-23 15:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋