My husband is helping out a woman who's husband died in Afghanistan. He is working overtime and going to the funeral (by choice) to help the spouse. I do feel sympathy for her. I just got done with college for the semester and can't find a thing to do really. I do try to go out with friends but is depressing listening to them talk about plans with their hubby. My husband is gone about 12-15 hours a day and I don't get even 5 mins to talk to him now. I wasn't this needy when I was in school. Well, I don't want to be selfish because someone did lose her spouse but can't help but want to spend time with mine. I tried talking to him about it but he said to have some compassion. I said I do but he needs to prioritize his time with the family and helping her out as well. Nothing has change yet......Maybe it'll get better.
2006-06-23 14:34:38 · 9 answers · asked by Ana 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your husband friend is your friend, what his problem is yours,, you have to support him no matter how hard for you to see him trying to be compassionate with this lady who's husband has just passed away. Try to spend time with him together even he is at the funeral,, Nothing would be change until you don't go there and be a part of this and let things be done.. don't feel strangers to them they would respect you because your husband has been good support to them in this time of loss..
when he ask you to go and stay home, that is the time you feel not appreciated and the time to complain about things..
hope you feel better.... god bless ..
2006-06-24 07:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
My bf, is gone 12 - 15 hours a day too.
It's good that you have friends, I just stay home a lot.
I kinda like alone time, but sometimes I go athe whole day without seeing anyone, except my bf and he always goes to sleep after a few hours. ( I think I spend a little to much time alone )
Are you allowed to tag a long with him?
Not everyday, but like 2 or 3 times a month.
2006-06-23 21:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by lilith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry. Everything will be fine, have patience.
Why dont u do something that'll distract u from ur personal life? ......why dont u catch a movie ........now dont look at those couples at the movies, or read a book ,........go out and shop n shop n shop ......spend......DO SOMETHING!! think of ur days when u were single ull surely get some gr8 ideas.....')
enjoy urself to the core.
Dont think bout anything else.
U know u may not get this chance again....
Make the most of it!!!
Dont worry be Happy :))
2006-06-23 21:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Dr.Drake Romorei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husbands heart may be in the right place, but his first priority should be his own family. Maybe you should go with him to help this family or make friends with this woman. This might give him more freedom to spend with you. I would definitely be involved in this in some way. If he does not want you to, then that's a whole nuther ballgame isn't it?
2006-06-23 21:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you pray things will definitely get better. In the mean time have you tried to meet some new people? Curl up with a good book? Pamper yourself? I know how it feels to be bored and depressed, but if you get too lonely you can contact me at :missrelovely8204@yahoo.com.
2006-06-23 21:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by larissa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself the FAB-49 question -- would he be spending so much time "caring" if the grieving party were a Fat And Bald 49-year-old guy? That's the true test. Freud invented it, I believe.
2006-06-23 23:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by Fred L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats up with that?? why does he need to spend this much time with her ??? compassion is fine but give me a break!!! you need to check this crap out and put your foot down...you are being walked on my friend ...stand up for yourself...good luck
2006-06-23 21:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by va8326 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell is he hanging out with this woman? You are his wife why arnt you telling him its not his business? He sounds like a dick
2006-06-23 21:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll get better when cows fly
2006-06-23 21:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Iron Rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋