im a shemale and my girl friend doesnt no should i tell her? if so how
2006-06-23 14:19:18 · 15 answers · asked by redneckkk25 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Tell her but be ready for what she says and how she would feel about it!
2006-06-23 14:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Hollywood girl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honestly is always the best policy - just be prepared for her reaction. Take her somewhere private and away from other people. Just calmly sit her down and tell her you have something you need to talk to her about that's very important to you. I'm not sure how you're using the term she-male... FYI people... it could mean transgendered, with is a male with female breasts undergoing the process for sex reassignment (which I don't think is the case here since he says a girlfriend)... or it could be a hemaphrodite, which is a person with both male and female genitalia. If the latter is the case, it's definitely important to be knowledgeable and give her facts on what it means, how it affects you, etc. Good luck!
2006-06-23 21:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by medtchva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about each other, just have a frank and open discussion. If it hasn't gotten serious yet, tell her now. If this relationship ends, I suggest you tell your next girlfriend before either of you has invested a lot of time and caring. You are who you are, and you should be loved for who you are! You do both of you a disservice to keep something like this to yourself. God bless you, and good luck. (Yes, to all the Bible thumping holier than thous out there: I DO believe that God will bless this person if he/she asks.)
2006-06-23 21:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Joey's Back 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is someone that you're dating? I presume that if you're dating, you're bound to get intimate at some point, and then your girlfriend will know.
Maybe have 'the talk' before that point though... surprises in the heat of the moment are not guaranteed to go well.
2006-06-23 21:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by wisdomtooth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. For your sake, as well as hers, you need to be upfront and honest. It would have been better to tell her in the beginning, but I would not proceed any further without telling her.
2006-06-23 21:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by Mocha Choco Latte 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you tell her the whole thing. She has a right to know, this affects her life very much.
2006-06-23 21:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you should come clean. Because in the meantime, you are living a lie and that is not fair to your girlfriend.
Don't you want her to love you for who you REALLY are, not who you are pretending to be. And you don't want her to find out any other way, do you??
2006-06-23 21:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, but be prepared for what may be a negative response
2006-06-23 21:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Eye of Innocence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes when our you planing on telling her that you like wearing women clothes when you get married or our you planing to let her catch you then have her break up with you
2006-06-23 21:25:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a she-male would have breasts, so if you are presenting yourself as a female she possibly would not know. you should be honest and let her know who you are.
if you are presenting as a male you are not a she male but a cross-dresser, still let her know.
2006-06-23 21:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by akanakedchef 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to couples counseling.
2006-06-23 21:22:51 · answer #11 · answered by lessie36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋