How do i handle this problem?

Question

Basically im the only one in my family who is doing any thing for themselves, but i am always being talked about and hurt by my family members, my younger sister tried to sleep with my other sisters husband, while she was in labor{i was the one at the hospital} and my sister just let it go and then i turned out to be the bsd guys bc ai told my little sister she was a homewrecker, this is what i deal with every day. im jsut trying to live a good life but its sooo hard with crap like this always popping up, how do i stop it, i cant disown my whole fdamily, there are 12 of us.

Answer 1

stand up for yourself and act like you run the house, meaning you have control of the situation. tell it like it is.

Answer 2

Don't get involved in their personal problems. Just be silent about anything that could be negative. If they ask you about something negative tell them you don't want to talk about it. Spend more time doing fun stuff with your family members and you'll find your family will get closer and stronger. Hang in there and remember they are the only family you've got even if they aren't always positive they're still family and thats more than some people have.

Answer 3

Hey I know what you mean, I thought I was reading my own bio!!! This is what I do. I stay as far away as I can from negetive people (family or friends). Remember, it's your life and no one is going to be there when you really fall except for those who are just like you. Make yourself as happy as you can and take care of your half. I always say, "IF EVERYONE WOULD PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR OWN WE ALL WOULD BE BETTER OFF"

Answer 4

Let them live their lives. I know it sounds generic and hard but mind your own business. if she told you she slept with her husband just say you dont want to hear about that. Avoid gossip! I know its hard but dont give your input unless asked for it. It will save you alot of heartache. Its one thing to try and help them out, its another to TRY AND TRY AND TRY with no results... Let them know you love them but avoid getting into anything that doesnt involve the family as a whole. Good luck... I know family can be a pain sometimes!

Answer 5

Well living in a large family can be very hard, I would say to find counseling. I hope things work out better for you :)

Answer 6

Sure you can. Just walk away. I stayed away from my family for 3 years because they belittled my efforts. My brother and sister are still gone. Didn't say it would be easy, but you can't live your life in their soap opera either.

Answer 7

Never let the actions of others affect your happiness. PRAYER is a good start. However, you can't just lie down and die for anyone. Others problems are just that, others. If you feel compelled, let her know, then just stay out of it.

Answer 8

sounds like abuse of some sort....
call a close family member or friend so they can help you

srry bout that
try to keep smilin- even though i dont kno you, you're my friend
;-)

Answer 9

Move out and live a friutful life. get a boyfriend that can help you and you can live with him if things get out of hand/

Answer 10

u must be patient.....do not fight your parents no matter wut they do except if u r going to convert to Islam.... there is a good thing if u try to help yer family....i prefer u try asking yer family to change... never smoke or try taking drugs or going to night clubs or gettin drunk or anything......never. u might get more problems with that......trust me u can do it....believe.