I'm starting to act like my mom and I don't know why. I don't want to act like her.
2006-06-23 13:36:19 · 14 answers · asked by user_never_exsisted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That is his.
2006-06-23 14:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether you like it or not, you are influenced by the people who raise you. Consider someone who travels from a northern US state to a southern one, or vice versa; in short order, their accent changes to suit the new environment, and that's for an adult interacting casually -- imagine how much influence your mother has had on you over the years!
The trick, then, is being as self-aware as possible, and when you know you're behaving in a way you don't like -- whether it reminds you of your mother or not -- stop, take a step back, and handle the same situation again in a completely different way. If it works better for you, keep doing that, until it becomes natural. Tah-dah! Suddenly you've influenced your own actions, in a conscious effort to improve. You can move mountains that way.
2006-06-23 21:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say because she's the one you've spent your whole life around. It might also be a genetic thing. I know with my wife, when we first met, she wasn't anything like her Mom, but now, 20 years later, I'm starting to see a lot of behavior patterns that her Mom always had. I hope this helps. Good luck!
2006-06-23 20:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the same reason men marry women just like their mothers. Because a mother is the most important & influential person in someones life - whether they like it or not.
2006-06-23 20:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by S. N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the model they grow up with on how to be a woman. They can read books or go to therapy, talk with other women to find other ways of doing it. Then maybe you will only be 50% like your mom anyway.
2006-06-23 20:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you were probably raised by her and you many of your habits, traits, perspectives and opinions from her and much more dont be worried just be open to problems and be willing to fix them or change things, there is nothing wrong "becoming your mom" even though you hate her be happy with yourself and your partner will be, hint most guys know to get to kow the mom before any serious relationship anyways so if shes cool your golden
2006-06-23 20:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ralphie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are nothing like their Mother.I feel I take after a little of both Mom and Dad.They both raised me and I spent time with both sometimes together and other times separate.Sorry to hear of your dilemma.
2006-06-23 20:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mainly because you aren't trying hard enough not too. You do have her genes, right? So, there has to be a effort made to make a difference in your actions over time than what you've lived through during your growing years.
2006-06-23 20:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean sometimes I act like my mom, and I hate it because I wanna act like myself, but I don't know who that is? Just change your actions. Easier said then done, but it's all possible.
Good Luck
=)
2006-06-23 21:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by Janet E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so funny. I think we all turn into our mothers at some point in our lives. After all, she was the woman we learned from!
2006-06-23 20:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by kathy059 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋