Would u tell ur friend of 20 yrs that her guy called u to hook up?

Question

If ur lontime friend's guy or girl called u & sd he jst wanted 2 say hi & c what was up with you, would you tell ur friend? If so do u think that would b a problm if she stayed w/him? Do u think he would b mad @ u for tricking on him & try to sabotage ur relationship w/her? So u think she would be xtra cautious when he was around u?

Answer 1

As long as he didn't hit on you no big deal, but if he did or he keeps on calling
You wouldn't be a true friend if you didn't say anythig

Answer 2

I would think that if she's a true friend for all those years, Yes tell her. Find a time which you two would be along and let her know that you didn't want to keep any secrets from her so you want to tell her that he called you. If she's a real friend, she's going to talk to him about the call and not attach you. Then this should be the time for her to let him go or stay with him. He's going to find a lie to give her on why he placed the call, so be prepared. He's also going to catch you alone and ask why were you trying to be a B---- and cause trouble. You tell him he should have thought about that when he made the call, because she is your Friend first and foremost. If she takes his side, I would rethink the friendship because it won't be the same with you two again. Wish you luck.

Answer 3

Um, I've been married for seven years, and my wife has a friend she's kept since high school. Now, I certainly don't have much reason to call her, and so I don't, but if I were bored and looking for something to do, I might very well call her to see how she and her husband and kids are doing. After all, she's an important part of my wife's life, and so I should have at least a basic relationship with her, right?

This may not have been an innocent call, BUT IT MAY HAVE BEEN. Your best bet is to assume that it was in fact innocent, and mention it to your friend casually as the innocent thing it was -- "hey, [guy's name] called me the other day, it was really nice to hear from him -- it makes me feel a little closer to you as a couple, instead of just you." Or something like that.

Now, if your friend decides that behavior is out of line, let her deal with him; but that's not your judgement call to make.

In short: to me, he sounds bored, not horny, and better he call his gal's best friend to chat aimlessly than some girl on the street. However, if he actually explicitly tried to get you to hook up, that's another thing entirely, and you should tell your friend exactly what he said.

Answer 4

If he was just calling to say hello, I don't see the problem. If he wanted sex, that's a whole different matter. I would not tell my friend because she is very likely not to believe you because she won't want to. Then you have lost a friend and she is still with the jerk. She will find out from someone else sooner or later. A guy who would come on to his girls best friend is after other girls as well no doubt. Just stay away from him.

Answer 5

Do not tell your friend. This is something she has to realize for herself. If you are the one to drop the bomb she will either be really happy you told her, or she will resent you for the information. Probably the latter. You need to tell the guy that what he did was inappropriate and that if he expects you to honor their relationship, he shouldn't be propositioning you or putting you in an ackward position with your friend. If he is worth keeping, he'll stop. If not, your friend will find out quickly. Either way, it's their relationship, and unless she asks you specifically, it's best to stay out of the middle of it.

Answer 6

If you are a true friend you should tell her, If he would be mad, who cares! If he cared about her he wouldn't be calling you to hook up! Tell her the truth and save her from this lieing, cheating dog of a man! Unless you want to hook up with him and then you are not a true friend.

Answer 7

Absolutely you should tell yourr friend and if your loyalty causes you to lose your friendship you can feel secure in knowing you undoubtedly did the right thing and upheld true friendship. No man has the right to brazingly persue a friend, relative or associate in defiance of you.

Answer 8

If I was a true friend, I would tell my friend. If she or he trusted their boy or girlfriend then there shouldn't be a problem. But if they call to hook up then there is a problem. You don't want to lose a long time friendship over some guy. Trust me, it's not worth it.

Answer 9

this shouldn't even be a question wouldn't you want her to call yo if the situation was reversed?? ok, and the only reason he WOULD be mad is if you talked to him like you wanted to hook up too and if that's the case you are a horrible friend and you should leave both of them alone and find someone else to be friends preferably a lesbian if you are straight then she won't have to worry about you and her companion...

Answer 10

My question to you is why would you even think about hooking up with your best friend man. Where has all the common sense have gone for if he will Cheat on your best friend what do you think that you are in for and please don't be stupid and say he won't cheat on me. Please don't be an idiot not only stay away from him, but you should run away from him as fast as you can.

Answer 11

You definetley have to tell her, Thats ur girl, and she deserves to know her man is a peice of....well. And i went through this, my best friend tried to hook up with my man, and i found out, shes in prison now for killing her baby, but that is anotha story. Just trust me, if shes your friend, she will listen to you, trust your friendship, dont be afraid.