I know the man's wife and I think she is unaware.The woman is known for doing this many times over but this has been going on for about a year.
2006-06-23 13:00:04 · 12 answers · asked by nerfherder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a really sticky situation. I have a question for you: Why is this causing morale issues and hurt feelings on the job? How does these two individuals having an affair have any real impact on others at work? Are they getting it on in the closet or the copy room or an office? Are you subjected to their noises while having sex? If this is the case then quietly report them to the proper person in authority above them.
However, if they are not doing the above mentioned actions why do you want to get involved? How does this affect your life or is any of your business? Just because you work together does not make it your responsibility to be the sex police. Sometimes we can stick our noses where we really have no business doing so. If this is not directly affecting your life, your abiltiy to do your job, then do not get involved. It is wrong to run tattling just because you see someone who is not living up to your moral standards. I agree that affairs are wrong, but it is also wrong to stick our noses where they do not belong. There is a saying I really believe in "**** stinks if you stir it". In other words, your life could become much more unbearable if you stir up something not your business which is best left alone.
Are you friends with his wife or her husband? If so then you have a basis for seriously considering telling whichever is your friend what their spouse is up to. If you are not close friends then it is best you just stay out of it. Ignore these people. I understand they offend your ideals and morals, mine too. however, it will only make matters worse and cause much deeper resentments and distrust at work if coworkers are tattling on each other right and left. We all have to live our own lives according to our moral code, our honor system. However, we do not have a right to push our own beleafs and morals and code of conduct off onto others. By tattling this is what would be occuring.
My suggestion is if you are not close friends with either of their spouses, nor is it something you are hearing while they are actually engaging in a sexual encounter, then let it be. They will get caught eventually and then you are in the clear. You will not be tainted by their conduct. If you allow yourself to get pulled in due to your outraged morals you are actually lowering yourself to their level. If you are friends with either of these two, talk to him/her or both. I would approach them seperetely and let them know how this is affecting the moral of their coworkers and creating resentment. I am not sure why it would lower moral or cause resentment, but I am not in that office or work enviroment so that is something you have to decide.
I too beleive this is morally, ethically, and dishonorable behavior. However, I would not lower myself by tattling to the bosses or to their spouses. This is also low behavior, tattling. If they were stealing from the company or not performing their job duties then that is a different issue all together. That would be everyones business who had to pick up the slack or be under suspision of theivery.
What ever you decide I wish you luck and happiness. Blessed Be.
2006-06-23 13:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is affecting morale the senior person needs to speak to your boss or human resources. Of course I wonder how an affairbetween consenting adults that doesn't involve anyone else, neither are married to someone else in the office are they, could cause this much trouble.
2006-06-23 13:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is hurting others in the work place this needs to be dealt with. the manager/owner/boss needs to know what is going on and should be the one to address this situation.
it is very hard to respect people like these who have so little regard for others feelings. terrrible situation.
2006-06-23 14:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by aeriolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Its not your business. If she' doesn't know, then she will find out on her own. By you trying to butt in, you just cause more hurt feelings.
Leave it alone and let them work it out.
2006-06-23 13:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with you. If meant to be told or found out trust me it will be . And also do you have anything to gain from letting him know? It's not for you to tell, so I would stay out of it.
2006-06-23 13:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by GG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have proof of this affair? Notify HR. If not, you might not be correct, and you should stay out of it.
2006-06-23 13:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stay out of it you never should get involved cuz of the fact that she might resent u for causing problems between them and she might know and think your just nosey
2006-06-23 13:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by 2forme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your nose out of other peoples business. Its got nothing to do with you so don't interfere. My god I hate interfering biatches.
2006-06-23 14:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please keep your mouth shut. Would you think his wife will be happy to hear this from you? or will you break their marriages?
Don't you have anything better to do other than sticking your noise in other's businesses?
2006-06-23 13:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tam V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We might have to start showering before instead of just after.
2016-03-27 02:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋