We belong to a poor family and i always have no free time for myself. Even just hang out with friends, I always have to helf my parent on there bussiness. And they don't want me to get boyfriend untill i'm 18 but when i met this riched bussiness man when i was 14 and his 43. He liked me to marry him when i was 16 and my parent pressured me too. So i marry him in the beginning i was cold on him, i show no love. Then i start to pity him because his innocent he don't know that i marry him because my parent forced me. I tried my best to be happy with him but everytime i remember that i have no fun in my life in the past. I feel that i should have more experience how to live by my self without to be depend on anyone. My husband once said that if really want to get the experience to be alone he would give me 1or2 weeks. then i decide if i want him or not. I don't take it because i start to liked him too,i just wonder what he would do in that time.If i take it he said that i don't care 4 him.
2006-06-23 12:43:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i'm confused what to do, I can't live without him too. No one would accept me for job, i don't even finish high school. I'm from asia.
What should i do?
2006-06-23 12:58:32 · update #1
It sounds like your husband cares for you and that you in a way care for him to. You could speak with your husband about the possibility of you getting an education, learn a trade or something and make yourself employable. Could you possibly do volunteer work with those less fortunate than you. you said he was a business man, is there the possibility of you working in his business? You need to find something that you can do by yourself that you will enjoy, that includes getting out and living life. If you are happy with him, tell him that you just want to learn something so that you can be more independant, being independant does not mean you need to be alone.
2006-06-23 15:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow it sounds like you've been through some very difficult times at such a young age. Even if your family is poor it was wrong to force you to get married with someone you don't love, what's important is for you to be happy not to marry someone because of his money. But despite that you're not a child anymore. Now you are free to make your own decisions. You say you pitty this man but now you're starting to like him. Pitty and love don't go toguether. In the end you're hurting yourself and when you get older and your youth's passed you by you'll be very angry for staying in a marriage with a man that you don't love. Unfortunately the only way you can find out what your true feelings are is to be on your own and have some space and time to think. And that could take longer than 1 or 2 weeks. Even if it becomes hard for you to find work you gotta have faith in yourself that you can survive on your own. You have to be prepared to work very hard, find a job and do your best to finish school and take some courses so you can have a career, But eventually you'll survive. And when you meet someone you really love you'll be free to be with him and be truly happy you won't have to convince yourself or hope to be happy it will just happen. Marriage is not easy but if you love the person is the only way you can make things work if not you can try but it will not work.
2006-06-23 20:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, then maybe you should divorce especially if you don't have kids. You may want to analyze your feelings and really decide if you are just with him now because you feel sorry for him and you find it more convenient to stay (maybe you're just used to him now) it's your comfort zone. Believe me, if that's the case, you really need to consider trying to live your own life and not do what others want you to. Sooner or later your feelings will start to shine through and what's the point of staying w/ someone just so you won't hurt them - in the end you'll hurt him anyway because you aren't happy and neither is him. I think if he loves you, he'll let you go too. Good Luck!
2006-06-23 19:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sea -N-Sun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have been made to marry this man. You need to go back to school and get your education first. You have a computer so take some online classes. I'm sure there is something you could learn to do. Women need to realize how important it is to get a education. You are the only one who can determine your success in life. You determine your path in life. Choose a good one. Good luck and I wish you happiness.
2006-06-23 22:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by ameri_skigirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!,,,,,You have not had a real chance to be a kid and thrown into a marriage in which you have had no say about it.
Do you live in the States or someplace else.
I would file for the divorce and find someone that you love not like you can like many people but really only love one.
I wish you luck.
2006-06-23 19:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by Gabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he's old. Stay there he won't live to much longer and you'll be free.........
If you aren't happy and can leave without your family flipping out and your hubby freaking out then leave. Do you really won't to be on your own?
If you have kids stay
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2006-06-23 19:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can live without him! go to a lawyer. your husband could be required to pay you alimony, if you signed a prenup i believe it's void, because you have to be an adult to sign a contract. it's worth a try.
2006-06-25 00:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you do what makes you the happiest!! Life is too short to waste!!!
2006-06-23 20:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by Blondie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know what you should do. I'll pray for you. Good luck.
2006-06-23 20:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Strange Design 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parent should never have inforse you to get married isn't that child abuse?
2006-06-23 19:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by casper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋