Imma thinker .. I needa let go of the past how ?

Question

My minds working over time already.. The husband has cheated and i forgave him or so i keep telling myself i have i mean i stayed with him of course it scarred me but im getting thru it ..I would like to think i forgave him but just cant forget .. Im always wondering if he will do it again ..welp im working on my insecurities i dont wanna feel so insecure ..so he left went to visit family 3 hours away and i decided to stay .. last time he went his ex was trying to be with him of course he has cheated more then once in the past so it makes me wonder if hes gonna do it now .. how do i stop from feeling this way ?? I want to trust him i mean thats why i stayed but my mind is already working over time ..any advice its silly I know Im really trying its just the last time he cheated i became very insecure in our relationship ..can i fix this ??will i always feel this way .shuld i stay or go keep in mind i love him ?

Answer 1

This is a very hard situation you are in, it seems like he doesn't even want to change if he keeps doing it. Does he love you? Maybe you should try to work on yourself so you can feel beautiful that confidence will make you less insecure. Keep him on a short leash so that you know what he doing at all times till then it will take years for you to get that trust back but without his help it will never get better. GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS.

Answer 2

Loving him wasn't enough for him to remain faithful to you. Forgiving and forgetting are 2 entirely different things. Just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you forget what they did. You have no trust in this man and rightly so, he destroyed all of that when he decided to cheat. You did nothing wrong and cannot be expected to fix what you didn't break. Sorry, but he isn't worth keeping around, he broke his marriage vows when he decided to cheat.