I just dropped my daughter off at daddy's for the weekend. She is 9. It kills me when she goes over there, cause she never wants to come back. Sunday night when it's time to come home, she's always begging to stay another night, and daddy will go right alone with her saying "why not?" Then if I let her stay, she'll just beg me the next day to stay there. This man was the one who was abusive and also cheated on me, I don't deserve him taking my daughter away from me too. I feel like I can never keep her here with me, she always wants to be with dad. He got the ultimate revenge. I've even tried to take him back to keep my oldest daughter happy, she cries all the time, and it's been 5 years! What should I do? I'm going to eventually loose my oldest daughter to him.
2006-06-23 12:34:21 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont worry i did the same thing with my parents, now my dad and dont talk and my mom is my best friens, the only reason she wants to b with him so much is cuz its different, ya know, its only on the weekends, so dont worry!!
2006-06-23 12:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by kumquat.2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The two days a week she spends with daddy is play time. Of course she doesn't want to come home. I'll be He treats her like a princess; all gifts and movies and never telling her no. You on the other hand make her go to school clean her room do her homework and make her go to bed on time. All the things a mother is supposed to do. Your sleazy ex doesn't help by encouraging her, you just have to stand firm. No arguing with him or her when it's time to go it's time to go. Don't loose hope your daughter will grow up soon.
As to your other daughter if she is still crying after 5 years of divorce she needs counseling. In fact the 3 of you could probably do with family counseling. If you can't afford it your county mental health agency should have programs available to help. Look them up and give them a call. You can make things better.
Courage!
2006-06-23 13:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daddy plays "the weekend Dad game" and spoils them. he probably gives them everything they want, doesn't make them listen to him, and lets them away with a lot. You are most likely the disciplinarian, and so naturally they want to stay with dad. It's not in their best interest to though, because they must be taught! You just keep doing what you've been doing. If Dad had them 24/7, he wouldn't be so popular either. You're right, he's wrong!
2006-06-23 12:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to loose your daughter to this man, stop with that already. Her father is playing games and making himself out to be the "good guy." For him to say in front of her, "Why not?" when she wants to stay is showing his disrepect for you. No means no and she'll know mom isn't playing around like dad does. Give him enough rope and he'll hang himself.
2006-06-23 12:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is dad giving her more freedom than you do? Are you the disciplinarian in the situation? You need to talk with your ex (even though you may not want to) and together raise your child - not use her as a pawn (which, it seems like he's doing, not you)
2006-06-23 12:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by mazoo_nc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family counseling! I big first step. Also, lose your anger for your ex it will only hurt your relationship with your children.
Hang in there, kids grow up and the do see the truth much clearer...you will not be a looser in the end if you are parenting with love!
2006-06-23 13:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by jpickrell1199 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not Stress over it, Look at the Big picture, Look range.
He is manipulative with his kids, He is trying to stress you out and push you buttons. It may take the girls till their 30 years old, but they are and will be your daughters.
2006-06-23 12:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by chairbinder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it is his daughter to. And also she might not like the things you do or people you hang out with.
2006-06-23 12:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go see a therapist to get some advice and ideas on what to do and how to work through this. It's complicated and that's how I would work through it to keep my kid and my sanity. Good luck.
2006-06-23 12:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Dukie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gte some counsiling and they will see him for who he really is in the long run
2006-06-23 19:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by keli2829 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋