My 3 yr old step son was physically abused before he came to live with his dad and I! I chose to move in with my boyfriend to help take care of his son and do not work outside of the home! He was abused and that is why we got him. He has alot of anger in him and sometimes is very hard to handle! I am not sure what to do when he has these tantrums that I think alot have to do with the abuse he experienced. He also does not sleep in his own bed. He starts out in his bed but wakes up screaming and ends up sleeping with us!
2006-06-23 12:14:02 · 3 answers · asked by mwright1974 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I commend you for taking on an abused 3 year old child. That is a very tough situation.
I believe that, first off, he needs lots of love, attention, patience, and time. Yes, he is going to be angry and throw big tantrums. When he does this, he needs lots of love but also the understanding that tantrums are not ok. This is probably his only way (he knows of) to get rid of his anger. Praise him for everything positive he does. Only do discipline by taking away things that are important to him and or doing time outs (1 minute for every year of age). When he has a tantrum, make sure he isn't hurting himself, others, objects, etc, then walk away without saying anything and let him have it. Definitely check on him to make sure he is ok but don't let him see that the tantrum is bothering you. In time, he will realize that acting out won't get him the attention, but that acting good will. Give him LOTS of loving attention (hugs, kisses, etc).
The next thing he needs, ASAP, is some counseling to learn how to deal with this. There are child psychologists that can help him with his overwhelming feelings of anger, etc. The psychologist can also let you know some ways to help him.
I wish you luck. You are an angel for taking this large task on.
2006-06-23 12:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him lots of love and attention. Be patient and kind and try to win his trust. Its gonna be hard and there are classes you can take to help you deal with situations like this. Good Luck!
2006-06-23 20:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of love and be patient. He will change in time. You can learn from the wisdom of elders.
2006-06-23 19:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋