this is my story i will try to make it short, see im in love with a man that lives in the uk, i want to go and be with him for awhile, but i have a teenage daughter 16 and i dont know if im cmfortable enough to leave her with this couple i know oh my god i so want to be with him still need passport and ticket need any advice please from you all that give it no smart *** ones either and thank you for taking the time to really answer me miss T
2006-06-23 11:57:22 · 12 answers · asked by miss T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Been there, done that, twice now. My current boyfriend lives in the UK, I live in the US. I have two children younger than your daughter, and they are always my first concern when I visit him. Luckily for me, they can stay with their father. In your case, I would look a bit harder for someone you know you can trust before you leave. Trust me when I say that you will be able to relax more easily and enjoy yourself if you know she is being taken care of. Otherwise you will spend whatever time you have together trying to reach your daughter on the phone to make sure she's ok. If he wants to be with you just as badly as you want to be with him, he will understand your concerns about your daughter and wait until you are certain she will be in safe hands.
2006-06-23 12:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by ebqwood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you go? why can't he come and see you? Leaving your daughter with "this couple," that you are NOT obviously completely comfortable with sounds pretty selfish.
I'm not trying to attack you, but really think about this. How long have you known the guy? Do you have parents or other relatives you can leave your daughter with? How long are you planning on being gone?
Really think about this. How will this affect your daughter?
As it stands, she is a minor. You want to be with this guy but your daughter is your responsibility until she is 18. You can't leave her with just anybody.
I wouldn't do it. Have the guy see you. If he loves you that much he'll make an effort. Especially if it isn't all that convenient for you. He's some guy far away. This is family. Some things are more important.
Good luck.
2006-06-23 12:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the love to him above your duagthers needs? Love is a need, maybe you need that love from him and he needs yours, but I think that you need to decide very carefully unless you know him and trust him, if you do, why not telling him about your daughter and explain the situation? Why do you have to choose between her and him??
And if he doesnt accept your daugther well then were is respect and dignity to others? I mean he is going to accept you as you are with your past and your duagther. In your situation I will put my the daughter first, because needs more guidance and advice.
Maybe you can spend some weekends with him if you really know him....
2006-06-23 12:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by frankomty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is "a while" ? Are you thinking of a weekend? Maybe you could do this. But only if you are certain of your daughters caregiver. If you are thinking staying longer, I recommend you either wait and make arrangements for her to go too, for him to wait until your child is in college ( not too far a away) or that he come to see you. If you matter as much to him as you think he does to you, then he will help work out the possibilities that consider the wellbeing of your child.
2006-06-23 12:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 18:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should think of you daughter first. If you are not comfortable leaving her with other people, you shouldn't do it. Having children means sacrificing lots of things that you want. But that is what she is. She is still your child, and you should stay and take care of her. Maybe when she is 18, you'll still be in this relationship. It's not that far off.
2006-06-23 12:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by jenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big decision. What does your daughter think? I dont think you should leave your daughter even though you have carers for her, Why cant he come to you? does he have commitments over there holding him back? if u go, do take her like some of the other msgs suggest. Good luck with your decision.
2006-06-23 12:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by jordancassandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he feel the same about seeing you he should come visit ,your daughter safety is number one and if he dont understand he is not for you. how can you even think about leaving her to go see a man that should not be a q
2006-06-23 12:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldnt leave my 16 year old daughter.I would take her with me.When she is 18 I would.If anything happened I could never forgive myself.Blood is thicker than water.
2006-06-24 08:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not take her with you?? It would be an awesome experience for you both.... besides if you might get serious about this guy, don't you think she should be part of that??
2006-06-23 12:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by jnsgrl99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋