i have a three year old and when i was pregnant and when he was bor up till about him been 18 months old, i was convinced he was going to die or have something wrong with him. This ruined all my pregnancy and the first year of his life as i thought everyday was going to be his last. (nothing was wrong with him) my point is does anyone think il be the same again? has anyone been through this with their first but ok with second or just the same? HELP!!!!
2006-06-23 11:44:38 · 15 answers · asked by fairylandk 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Ok I'm a guy, but with my first born I was just like you, I loved them so much I was sure something would happen and take em away, I was always checking if they were breathing. I often got flashes in my head of something bad hapening, it was scarey and I lost lots of sleep.
WIth my second it was not as bad, I still checked the breathing, and the horrible sort of thoughts of something bad happening to em eased off.
We had a third baby and I loved it just the same same as the other two. I checked the breathing a lot, I get bad aspirations of something happening on and off at times, not as bad as the first which is what you asked, but in the end I think is shows you love you child so much it is overpowering, at least that is how it feels to me.
and even when they are grown up the love is so strong I would willing walk under a 10 ton truck for them at any given moment.
2006-06-23 11:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
every pregnancy and child is different, chances r it wont happen again as u know what is happening this time round.
i was very anxious with my first, always checking on him etc. u know what i mean cause u have been there yrself. anyway, i waited until he was 5 before having my second and that was down 2 the same fears as u. however i was completely different that time round, much more confident in my parenting and definitely more relaxed! so much so that when she was 8 months old, i was expecting my third child!
i wish u the best of luck, and try not 2 worry, ur not having the same pregnancy or child, go for it and most of all ENJOY the process and the result! if u get what i mean! lol :)
2006-06-24 15:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by missilibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, and I don't mean this is a nasty way, but it sounds like as if you need some professional counselling with someone who understands these types of problems.
Your obsession could manifest iteself into something more sinister. I don't think you should even contemplate having another child until you get the root of these feelings... once you have, you will go onto another pregnancy more positive and be able to enjoy your children.
Good luck.
2006-06-24 02:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by Violent and bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel i was the same with my first born, i would watch him sleep convinced he was going to stop breathing so i used to watch his chest going up and down as he breathed, i would think to myself 'right i'll close my eyes after his next breath' but ten minutes later i was still watching this would go on for hours every night, sometimes i would be thinking about what would happen if he did die and i'd sit there in floods of tears before i realised i was thinking about it, it was constant but around the 20 month stage it stopped, when my daughter was born i did go through the same but only for a few weeks and it was no where near as intense as before.
hope this helps you
vicky xx
2006-06-23 22:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by vicky g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope - its natural to be very protective but your thoughts are dwelling on death. I think you should definately speak with your GP or Health Visitor, sounds like postnatal depression. Just a big of medication for a few months could make you feel happier again.
2006-06-23 18:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Nikita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a good chance you'll be the same again, but is it better to not give a toss and let something bad happpen.
All mothers I know are obsessed with thier babies, the time you describe is the danger time for cot deaths.
You probably will fret, but there's nothing wrong with you.......Probably.
2006-06-23 18:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by jimbo_thedude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to talk to someone.
losing a child must, is the worst emotion for a woman.
i have had 3 children and 1 miscarriage.
its not easy, only a woman would know.
fear can be a negative emotion. life is a struggle.
sometimes you just have to bite the bullit.
if you feel you can cope and its what you both want then go for it and what will be will be. bless.
2006-06-23 19:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RELAX!!! Believe in your gynaecologist. Rely on your husband for support and help and believe in God. I know it's easier said than done, but please do TRY. Find something to occupy yourself with when you're pregnant so you don't have excess time dwelling on the possible(but not probable) negative outcomes of the pregnancy. All I know is, if you don't relax, you WILL repeat the trying process again.
2006-06-24 02:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by G K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i had my first child i had a child that cried from the day he was born to 1 year old none stop we seeked help from health visitors doctors but found nothing wrong the only way to get him to sleep and myself was to push him up and down in his pram i always thought the worse, but i had my daughter who was the opposit slept was totally different you get no two children the same infact my son taught my daughter alot they helped each other i wouldnt be without them.
2006-06-25 17:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only have one child, but eveyone says it's easier with the second. My son is 12 now and he's a spoilt brat so i think you should have another before you child gets too old..good luck.
2006-06-24 05:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by CATWOMAN xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋