I Just married a man who cheated on his first wife. The thing is he cheated on her with me. Now I am constantly thinking the same thing will happen to me. I know I would deserve it if it did. But do you think ppl change or will he always cheat?
2006-06-23 11:39:54 · 33 answers · asked by flonehotmamacal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you know what kind of man your husband is, did he feel bad when he was cheating on his first wife with you? Did he have any feelings off remorse? Yes I do believe 100% that people can change and no not once a cheater always a cheater, people make mistakes we are all human. Believe in your man and have trust in him or that will be the downfall of your marriage. Good Luck
2006-06-23 12:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Jennifer♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I believe people can change. However, I would say the percentage of men or women who change wholeheartedly is extremely low. I believe there has to be a life changing event or some dramatic experience that will ake them change. Of course, they may just fin someone that fills a void in their life that changes them. I think the fact that you cheated with him should be a major red flag. They say what goes around comes around. I don't know the circumstances of the three way relationship you had, nor do I believe there is ever an excuse to cheat. I think if you wanted to be together, you should have respected the other woman and yourself enough to wait until he was seperated from the other woman. What's done is done. We all make mistakes. You are in it now, so all you can do is make the best of it, but don't be mad if it happens to you. Next time, find your own man instead of someone elses.
2006-06-23 13:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Pete & Ame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are cheaters in this world who cheat for sport. But there are decent people that end up cheating because they are lonely and starved for love and affection. Best bet is to end what you are currently in before going out and seeking love and affection elsewhere but we are living in a world where people just don't want to be alone so most people need to find someone else before they leave what they have. Sad but true. Does it mean all folks (male and female) who cheat will perpetuate this behavior in every relationship they have? I say not.
2006-06-23 12:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cheated on my boyfriend to be with barry and we ended up together and now have been married 5 years. I think it depends why someone cheated. I was in a bad relationship. I had never cheated on any other boyfriend and I would never cheat on my husband. I think though that it is really wrong to cheat while you are married, but I don't know his reasons. I would say unless he has a history of cheating that you have nothing to worry about.
2006-06-23 11:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by ravinskye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible people can change, although I'd say not very likely - the older you get the harder it is to change, btw.
Was he already having problems with his ex-wife before he met you? Or were you the cause of their break-up? If it's the later one, well then, I'm not a fortune teller but I can guarantee you that if that's the case HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU sooner or later.
2006-06-23 11:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand the reasons he cheated in the first marraige,, if it was just for ego and sexual turn on,, then probably he will cheat again,,,, if however it was because his basic emotional needs were not being met and his ex wasn't holding up her end of the relationship,, you have a chance of keeping him as long as you make it where he can talk to you about anything truthfully.
Have a talk with him.
2006-06-23 11:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people may end up doing the same thing over and over, my dad was once one of those men that would cheat on my mother, but eventually he realized how much he was hurting my mom and his kids, so he stopped and got marriage counseling, so people can change, it takes some time
2006-06-23 12:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that he will always be a cheater.
Think of the reasons he cheated on her ... is it something you can control. He'll cheat again. Why wouldn't he?
2006-06-23 12:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes people do change but if he cheated on his first wife with you what makes you think that he wouldn't do it again. If the tables were turned do u think u would trust him. do u trust him now..
he may not be thinking about cheating but i am quit sure that you think about it a lot
2006-06-23 12:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by sweet nell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My X cheated on me. Married someone who cheated on his previous 3 marriages. Not a question of if, but when.
2006-06-23 12:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋