I pissed myself laughing when I read that. You have to admit it's f.u.c.k.i.n.g. funny. Thing is, his grandma can't have him arrested. He's 7 yrs old. I'd say he's going through a phase where he's testing the boundaries. Just show him where they are. He'll get over it.
2006-06-23 14:23:42
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answered by smurfette_au2000 5
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You take all violent content games away.
He threw a vase while you were talking to him regarding this and you think its ok? Hard to say who has more issues here you or him,, you are not being an effective parent if you think this behavior is normal and ok. This is not a phase, however it may be out of control behavior because his Dad seems to not understand that kids need rules. It IS SERIOUS.
You and son need to get in counseling. I don't want to see the kid wind up in jail but honestly a trip in front of a judge and some honest consequences for him would be a good place to start.
If a person can harm another human being and sit and laugh about it at 7 years old, you have a serious problem on your hands.
2006-06-23 11:51:45
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answered by yeller 6
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I think that the problem is not the child...the problem is you.
The part of your question where you say "you have to kind of laugh at it a little don't you?" says it all.
If you cannot see how serious this is then how can the child be expected to.
Take away his computer games, do not allow him to watch TV, let him go to school & nowhere else.
If this kind of behaviour is allowed to continue then before long you will not have a naughty little boy, you will have a thuggish, violent, unmanagable teenager.
I think you should ask your local policaman in to have a word with him...just to put the wind up him & scare him a little.
No wonder your wife is ready to hit you. This whole thing is your fault. You are lucky that she only broke her arm, this could have been a lot worse.
2006-06-24 04:41:56
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answered by monkeyface 7
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I don't know about jail, but something unpleasant and serious. Like 40 hours picking up garbage somewhere, or paying all of her medical expenses off.
If he's tripping his grandma at this age, what will he do when he gets older, to that nice woman down the street, or his irate boss? No sir, this is not a practical joke we're talking about.
Besides, it's her choice to press charges, not yours or even his. She's not laughing, and no, I'm not laughing a little either. My own grandmother fell as a result of an accident, and died a few weeks later. There's just nothing to say about the seriousness of a fall.
2006-06-23 11:54:20
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answered by UnrealJuju 2
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Wow- this is not normal. As a mother of three and in the middle of earning my PhD for psych., I can tell you that there is an underlying issue on why he is acting out in such a violent way. It could be alot of things ranging from not receiving enough positive attention when he is not "acting out" all the way up to being abused by someone in some way (even sexually). This is very serious and I would strongly recommend bringing him to a child psychologist. A 7 year old doesn't act that way for without reason.
Oh, and you should DEFINITELY take any games, movies, etc. away if they are rated over his age. This will only aggravate the situation.
2006-06-23 12:02:04
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answered by Jess 2
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No, it's no laughing matter at all, he broke his grandmother's arm, for crying out loud, by tripping her on purpose. From his laughing about it, it seems he KNEW better than to do so...from your...laughing about it...tells him it's okay...to DO it again....you and your wife need to get on the same page here. Otherwise, your son, may very well wind up in jail someday, or even prison. Which, I think is a little harsh ...at 7, but some counseling....might help, he sounds like he may be adhd...and possibly need medicated. And while I do NOT agree with the medications they put children on these days, I understand that in some circumstances, it can be necessary.
2006-06-23 13:47:45
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answered by bella 2
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Set-up a meeting with child psychologist or child behavior specialist for that age. May be he is too spoiled, or has some wrong messages being given to him in some form. No mater what it's definitely not a laughing mater, what if he does that at a shopping mall, wouldn't you guys get sued by the victim. What if his behavior get out of hand at some place where he hurt himself seriously if not anyone else. He may become a good kid when he grows up but he has to stay out of trouble until then. I mean his grandma broke her arm because of him, who is next? You think that's funny. I have three boys but we keep an eye on their brought-up. Get involved with him in his interests & hobbies and he will listen to you once you come down from the thrown and become his friend.
2006-06-23 11:57:11
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answered by Bill 2
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I think you obviously have some mental problems if you find purposely inflicting pain upon someone else amusing, take the matter as serious as it is, I mean what happens next, he might think it is amusing to beat the living daylights out a toddler and leave him for dead just for kicks, would that be funny, if people like you were to have a little forethought maybe the world might be a better place. Children need to be educated in the ways of life that are acceptable, if you cant figure out what is acceptable behaviour get the kid adopted by someone who can.
2006-06-23 15:14:30
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answered by Ragamuffin 2
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Yeah, all of you need to be in counseling really quickly. Your child is disfunctional, and your wife and you can't control him -- he's outa control, and needs some serious help. He is the parent in your household, not any of you. He is a pisser, and wait until he's 16 -- then you will have a criminal on your hands. Run, don't walk to the nearest family therapist, my friend, or your son will be doing jail time....... He may anyway, but at least you can say you tried....... good luck
2006-06-23 12:37:16
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answered by April 6
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I feel anger purely and simply because this lad has no respect-- he hasn't been brought up with any so what do you expect? you as a father should se the seriousness of what he did.
Tripping an elderly woman up on purpose is wrong and immoral he should be punished for this- i would class that as assault because it was no accident. At 7 years of age he should not be thinking of such cruelty but his parents are mainly to blame for that. Kids learn what they live so im sorry if i offend.
Take him to a bording school or detention centre if that don't work u gonna hav to try harder on making the next 7 years into teenage bloody hard for him. I think you and the wife need counselling and lessons on how to raise children properly
2006-06-23 20:24:27
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answered by Scatty 6
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If you did what your son did, you would be arrested, though you might get off for mental illness. If your son is allowed to continue in this vein, he will not be a welcome member of society. He will continue to be violent and destructive and disregarding of authority. This is no mere phase; he's learning that it's okay to do what he's doing. To function in our world, one cannot be a violent person. Your son will never be happy, because he will never find a place, at least in legal company. I don't see how a responsible parent would allow his offspring to fail so utterly, so immediate action is necessary.
Thankfully, all thinking beings can be trained, and people are especially good at being trained, at least if they have a knowledgable trainer. One needs to show that every action brings a reaction, and to make negative reactions correspond to what the trainer feels are negative actions, and vice versa. You are one of the few figures allowed to train your child, but your "training" (finding amusement in his antics, unwillingness to enforce punishment) is only reinforcing his current behavior. Since you are unwilling or unable to be a responsible parent (as determined above), and are indeed undermining whatever efforts your wife and others are attempting, you should probably allow your child to be arrested. Although the state is less capable of providing the emotional connections necessary to create a healthy child and less willing to show positive reinforcement of good behavior, it is more able to enforce it's punishments on bad. The child will grow up probably severely emotionally deficient, but at least he'll be able to be more or less productive. Maybe.
The best thing, however, would be for you to step up. Get whatever help you can to bring him under control. Like dogs, people are not comfortable without a structured life and authority. You need to provide it, again with whatever help you can find. Hopefully it's not too late, but children are easy to teach, so if all goes well he'll end up all right.
2006-06-23 12:02:12
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answered by Fenris 4
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