i have a boyfriend that wont work and we have 2 kids and one on the way. what should i do?
2006-06-23 11:31:57 · 35 answers · asked by lil_shawty903 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Some men (and women) are lazy because they have had everything handed to them. Some have no initiative, drive and can't deal with reality.
If you are working or have worked and he isn't, that's really not fair to you considering you have to deal with the stress of having kids and being pregnant .Plus, the father won't do anything to help with your future or your kids futures.
If you have already seriously sat down and talked to him about your feelings, then I'd suggest trying to convince him to go with you to counselling because communication lines are crossed and you both are not on the same page.
I hope this helps and everything works out.
All the best...
2006-06-23 11:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are like that. If your boyfriend won't support you are your kids, Lazy is not the problem, He is the problem. You need someone that will take care of your kids. Go find him.
2006-06-23 11:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mojo Jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is his medical condition? Has he had a physical? Lazyness is secondary to some conditions like hypothyroid, diabetes ect. get him checked OR stop doing things for him, make him do all his own, if he wants something to eat let him fix his own, same with laundry ect, Why should he do anything if it is all taken care of for him? A real man will support his family anyway he can. How does he support his family? Welfare is not a way of liife, what about retirement? Since he is a boyfriend he cant get state benefits,so how does he earn money?
Good Luck
2006-06-23 11:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Stop having kids with him.
2) Tell him, he has to work or you will leave him. He has to support his family some how. Be it, watching them while you work, or paying for diapers. Every little bit helps.....assuming he lives with you.
Leaving him wont solve anything, only causes alot of deeper holes in your pocket, while the courts get richer......in the meantime, the kids are the ones who suffer from that action.
2006-06-23 11:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by WBS_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't even married? You didn't know this before you had kids? Dude's getting a free ride. Nothing is going to change for you until you boot him out. But you Love him so you will go on complaining and do nothing. Grow a pair and kick his lazy tail out!
2006-06-23 11:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by jhrkickin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick the boyfriend out, have your kid and get back to work after finding suitable daycare. Loose the "baby fat" and find a rich & hott guy at a little after-work bar who likes kids! : )
2006-06-23 11:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by beauvoir_babe1865 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They think that you can be their mother's. Which you can so you got to take contol of the situation and tell the lazy *** to get up and get a damn j-o-b. Don't be scared of what he's going to do. He's got to think about those kids that he helped make. Let him have it, Tell him like it is.
2006-06-23 11:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by dlbaca7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his *** out. today girl don,t give no more chance,s he,s a loser. you can find some one better then him. he is just a lazy *** loser you know girl. you can find some one who will care about you and you kids. don,t stay with him. your really stupid If you stay with him. kick him out already. he,s worthless he,s not going change If you give a lot of chance,s he,s give keep live off on you. and make excuse all the time why he dose not have a job.
2006-06-23 11:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him out. if he really isnt doing any work at all, then it wont be any different without him.
You should have gotten married first before you ahyd kids so it would be easier to just dump him. now you have to think about the kids.
2006-06-23 11:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by efraevo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man is lazy this includes women
whom regardsless of what is said can be even more lazy then most males
2006-06-23 11:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋