I don't believe in spanking, only because I was WHIPPED as a child and I know the pain that it causes physically, psychologically and emotionally... I do believe in punishments, time-outs and taking their favorite pasttime away....
When I say I was whipped - I mean extension cords, leather belts, welp marks, etc. Why should I put a child through TORTURE, when I can possibly talk to them about their misbehaviors?
2006-06-23 11:21:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just would like to hear others opinions.
2006-06-23 11:21:39 · update #1
I have given my son a tap on the hand and a tap on the bum, but only three times, the first time, he was about to stick his fingers into a plug socket (he'd just learnt to crawl and was into investigating), the second time, he kicked me, I said if you do it again, I'll smack your leg, he did it again so I smacked his leg, the third time, he'd dug his nails into my hand, so I tapped his hand and told him not to be naughty. But usually all I need to do is tell him why he shouldn't do something and he doesn't do it.
2006-06-25 05:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but only on the behind. Have to be careful or you can break the blood vessels in your hand, but you have to make them feel it. I've heard that spanking a child once for whatever mischief they committed is for the "crime." Anything more than once comes from the spanker's anger, which is not right. I think the key, also, is not spanking or yelling ALL THE TIME. It will have more the effect you want if it's done only for especially mischevious deeds only. I was spanked with switches, hands, and belts, and I am not psychologically or emotionally damaged, and I never spoke to my parents the way kids do today - OR had driveby shootings at school. In my opinion, there is not enough disciplining done at home or in schools today.
2006-06-23 18:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by patticakewithfrosting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe in spanking, yes. I was spanked and I learned not to do things. I was never hit with extension cords or belts or switches. My parents didn't believe in beating just spanking. There is a difference. To spank is a whack on the butt with the parent's hand and only the hand. What you have explained IS NOT spanking but brutal beating. Child abuse as a matter of fact.
I could understand your way of seeing things. But sitting in time out doesn't seem like any type of punishment at all. Every time I got a time out I got up and did the same sh*t again. But when I got spanked it was the end of the mischief. I don't have any children yet but when I do I can't say if I will or I won't, because it's not a choice I've ever had to make, but I do believe in it.
2006-06-23 18:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by real_sweetheart_76 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was also on the other end of the whipping stick (belt, golf club, foot, etc.) as a kid. I have a 16 and 13 year old. I have spanked the 16 once in his life and the 13 twice in his life. It was only used for a extreme case in which my wife and I felt neccesary. It was one spanking on the butt but did get their attention. I asked them about it now that they are older and they say they agreed it warrented and kept it in mind in the future. I know people that only use that to disipline their kids and seem to have the worst brats.
2006-06-23 18:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by The_answer_guy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HELLSSS yah I would spank my kids if they were purposefully misbehaving. A childs mind sometimes developes like a small animal's. If there is pain from an action, the action should be avoided.
I was spanked like that too. Alot of times I got to choose my own stick/ shoe to be whipped/hit with. and I had to do alot of things like kneel down with my hands in the air for hours.....
But its all good, I actually think I benifited from it (except some things were a little servere.)
I think its all about your child's personallity complex, could they benifit from it?
2006-06-23 18:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Holly N 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My parents spanked me when I was growing up with belts switches and anything else they could get their hands on.. But after they spanked me and I cooled off they would call me into the living room and explain to me why they did it and the reason why what I did was wrong..
I love them for it, all of my cousins and stuff just got time outs and privileges revoked and right now they are constantly in and out of jail.. Kids should respect and pretty much be scared of their parents.. After we got a little older then my parents started taking things from us, but by then we pretty much knew not to piss them off!! That's how I plan on raising my child....
You turned out alright didn't you??
2006-06-23 18:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I do spank my children, but only on their bottoms and only with my hand. I got the belt, hairbrush, wood spoon and ruler (and other things on occasion) and I will not use an impliment.
2006-06-24 08:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shoudl go to jail..I believe parenting should have as little punishment as possib.e Kids learn on their own. Parents are there to support them. My parents are my friends, they're not strict at all. And I love them for that. They never hit me, grounded me ora nything. I'm not spoiled. I have jobs. I'm only 14 and I get good grades.
2006-06-23 18:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would have controled me at 10 years old?
2006-06-23 18:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-23 20:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋