I've known this guy for 3 years I thought we were close and I knew him well. I was told by a doctor that it would be really hard to get pregnant and he did not prescribe birth control. I did get pregnant and now he will not talk to me. I saw him recently at a doctors office and he called me crazy and would not look me in the eye when I just said we need to talk because I'm pregnant. I feel so bad and this does not seem like the guy I knew. Now he has changed the Yahoo profile he has had for 3 years and it now says he's married. I am so confused about this that I'm getting counseling.
2006-06-23 11:05:42 · 16 answers · asked by Mom 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Thank you all for your insightful answers - the relationship was not a close one but I was started to feel love for him. Of couse I will move on - and I'm sure the baby and I will be happy.
2006-06-23 11:26:32 · update #1
To Lu Ann - I asked the doctor for birth control or rather in intern - so dont assume so much. I also asked other interns at several other times and for some reason never got a prescription.
2006-06-23 21:23:54 · update #2
maybe he is married and you didnt know it. just forget the guy you and the bab yare better off without him but make sure he puts insurance on the baby and pays you support because hes the one who crawled up on you and got you preg.
2006-06-23 11:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by meredith o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal if the baby was planned between the two of you and there were discussions over the three years you have known each other, BTW I'm assuming you were in a relationship and not just .........otherwise his actions are saying he's just not in to you. Sad! Yes! Move on you are worth so much more and so is your baby who deserves his or her rightful place in this world. Good Luck.
2006-06-23 18:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by lainey lain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think doctors wouldn't advise no birth control unless you were completely sterile. Now you are pregnant, however, If this guy doesn't want to know, it's his loss, but from your point of view, I should stick with the kid and pour all of your energy into it ( don't like saying it but you didn't say the sex ), I wasn't ready for my kids but the effort was well worth it.
It's not an easy path, but rewards are huger than you can guess. If you can be a solid character for them to base themselves on you have nearly achieved eternal life.
And there are plenty of men who don't mind a woman having kids.
2006-06-23 18:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by jimbo_thedude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably feeling like you trapped him into fatherhood.
Since when is it the doctor's responsibility to prescribe birth control for you out of nowhere? Whether you're told you can get pregnant or not, you should always use protection.
I don't blame him for being hurt. Ladies, birth control is not just HIS responsibility!
2006-06-23 21:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Luann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not normal. You need to get on with your life. This guy sounds like a big looser. You and your baby are going to need to have support. Start building yourself a support network NOW. It sound to me like you didn't really know the guy that you were intimate with. Good on getting counselling - if it helps you.
Here are some sites on the net that might also help.
Good luck to you and your baby. :o)
http://www.thehelpline.org/
http://www.pregnancyhelp.org.nz/
If you are in the UK this one should help:
http://www.lifeuk.org/gloucester/preghelp.htm
2006-06-23 18:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by LUCIBEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that does not matter. He may change his tune after the baby is born. But in any case after the baby is born you need to get child support. He helped make the baby and now he needs to take care of the baby.
2006-06-23 18:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by HastyBabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does not want the responsibility of being a father, and that is getting more common these days, since guys don't seems to grow up as fast as they use to..Best Wishes to YOU!!
2006-06-23 18:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a fake, a liar and a coward!
What a pig!
If you know where he lives, go see him at home - you might get some idea of his current status? At least when you know, you can get over him.
Why should you have counselling? Its him with the problem, not you!
2006-06-23 18:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sally J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it's just going to be you, the baby, and a check from sperm donor
it shouldn't matter if it will be 'hard' to get preg you should have demanded birth control and if that dr didn't give it to you then go elsewhere. remember that next relationship you are in
2006-06-23 18:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by frogsandducks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a lot of reasons, for not talking to you. most likely is is scared to death. i don't know his age but he may be in shock. talking to him is the best thing and be honest. also he thought you could not get pregnet. and he may feel betryed. but if you are as close to him as you say you are, then the trust should be there.
2006-06-23 18:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by mr winkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋