2006-06-23 11:04:40 · 11 answers · asked by lillady085 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think is a matter of gender. Men -at least most of the men I know- seem to "need" freedom. Marriage implies commitment and your freedom ends when your beloved starts. That means "limits".
Marriage is a commitment and every commitment is an election. If a man decides to get married, he will have to stop doing a lot of things that are not accepted in marriage life, like going out to with other women, for example.
I think the interesting part is to have a marriage where both, man and women, have their own space with a "healthy" freedom that allows them to be themselves but also a shared space where they can be one.
2006-06-23 11:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by MB 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The fear of commitment works both ways. Most women these days have no clue about what or who they want. Until they reach an age in which they are mature enough to quit playing childish games with men, there is no use in even trying to get them to commit to anything.
Guys aren't really afraid of commitment. Guys are just scared of women who think guys should be eternally joined at the hip with them just because the woman gave the guy some. Ladies, just because a guy wants to have sex with you doesn't mean that he wants to marry you or that he should be expected to marry you. Believe it or not, your vagina isn't the best or the only one on the planet. SO, just because you give him some doesn't mean that he'll be forever fiending for you. Just move on and find a guy who does want to marry you and if it takes a while just enjoy the ride so to speak.
2006-06-23 18:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by McReynolds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are afraid Lillady. Some of us are happily married and we don't feel "tied down!" I am in love with the most beautiful lady in the world! We have been happily married for eleven years and never once have I felt "tied down".
That isn't to say that some men don't feel this way because your right, they do. These men aren't ready for marriage and hopefully the ladies can see this and hopefully not commit themselves to them.
Good question
2006-06-23 19:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are to afraid to be there own person alot of times,god forbid we should have the guys say something like"your whipped" or what ever.I think at times guys act like that cause they are jelous of thier friend who does have a good woman. Yes you are living different when you get married,but if you truly love the person you have unconditional love for them. you can be married and still do things apart,that is a healthy relationship!! Some men are afraid of becoming fathers too and many times that can come with marriage.Some men just never mature.
2006-06-23 18:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by LUNCHY THE PIRATE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a matter of men and women, I think it has more to do with a person's background and what has happened to them in the past.. When I first met my husband I was pretty much like OK he's cool, we'll have sex and that would be it... But he fell in love with me first and always talked about our "future" together.. I was so scared. But then I realized that I loved him and we got married... If he hadn't been persistent about telling me his feelings, and how he wanted to commit I would have been outta there!! Now we're happily married and expecting our first baby within the week!!
2006-06-23 18:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying goes:
A man is not complete til he's married...then he's finished.
It happened to me slowly but I was no longer able to go play sports as much as liked. I love my wife dearly but there are some things I didn't want to give up.
I was all for the commitment, not a prob. After so many years of bachelorhood, it was a long, hard habit to break.
2006-06-23 18:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ties u down... i m telling from experience i m out it now... and one has to be really really careful not to get into a kind of relationship that limits your freedom too much.
Marriage will do it in all cases... u will do it to yourself by getting married.... so one must know that the need for permanent companionship is really that bad and only then go ahead. And even then u cant b sure... the girl can ditch you for something better.
2006-06-23 18:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by boogie man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls from an early age, dream of getting married, and having babies, it's in their genes. That why all the play with dolls, and ken and barbie.
Boys don't do that, and the thought of being married and yes tied down, scares the crap out of us. We like to think of ourselves as hunters, and with a wife, and possibly children, that puts another out look on things.
Just as well, most men get over that, and are willing to settle down to married bliss.
2006-06-23 18:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if they tell u they feel like there tied down, then they werent ready for marriage, commitment, u have to be willing to make it, or want to make it, and most men dont know how
2006-06-23 18:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a stereotype. Most guys I know are married happily. I don't see it as being tied down.
2006-06-23 18:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋