2006-06-23 10:50:44 · 27 answers · asked by frsttmshy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because they can't handle their own insecurity - they need to feel empowered or validated by some other form of attention. I do believe that most of the time when a partner cheats, it has very little to do with their spouse, and almost everything to do with them and their own crises or insecurity.
'It's too difficult and time consuming to get into a discussion with the wife - here's a coworker who I see all the time who will listen to my side of the story only and feel bad for me and make me feel like I'm right, like I'm still desirable.'
And of course, they see all the nice traits of a certain person, (well! She doesn't nag me, she listens, dresses pretty all the time, wears make up, doesn't ask me to do anything, doesn't make me feel like I don't earn enough to please her, etc) because they don't live with that person. For some reason, they may actually think 'this person's different!' (Most people at this point would have a reality check. Everyone has flaws.)
But because he's feeling down and insecure, or feels the need to prove to himself or others that he can do whatever he wants and is still desirable, he justifies his thoughts and actions.
They might be 'happy' with the relationship or you, or say so... but they are clearly unhappy with themselves, and I think this a method of pretending they are someone they want to be, a form of escapism from the real fact that they are a disappointment to themselves for some reason or another.
All of us wives should always to do whatever it is in our power though, to build up our mates and encourage them when ever we can under the enormous amount of obligation they carry - instead of maybe making them feel that they might not be good enough or that they are a disappointment, etc. In my opinion, the cheating spouse will always be the one to blame, but before then, hopefully good communication and lots of love and respect will avoid it in the first place.
EDIT: I don't think anyone is a place to judge an entire gender to say that you have cheated, and if you haven't, you will. Plenty of men and women have happily remained faithful. I certainly haven't cheated, and do not feel attraction to anyone else whatsoever so I find it very assumptive that you believe every woman will cheat. You don't know me or anyone else on these boards even remotely close enough to make that assumption.
2006-06-23 11:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by UnrealJuju 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-07 16:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different men cheat for different reasons. Some just want a safety net to fall back on, so they SAY they are happy in the relationship but aren't. Some do it for the thrill and adrenaline rush. Some, and this is the most sad, don't really want to, but they just can't control themselves. It's an addiction.
2006-06-23 10:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ehlena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men cheat for the same reasons women cheat. Just close your eyes and think about why you have cheated and you will know the answer. Don't tell me you haven't cheated, if you haven't, then you will. All women cheat.
2006-06-23 10:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by spudric13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am happy in a relationship and I am I do NOT cheat there is no need to my heart is only for my girlfriend I have no lust for another nor would I want to be with another.
2006-06-23 10:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Neilman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are generally happy in their relationship but you do have to know your man..take him on an outing and pay close attention to him. Nine times out of ten he sees something that he wants in his relationship with you. Be it man or woman if something is missing in our relationship we tend to venture out instead of letting that mate know that we are not satisfied with the relationship.
2006-06-23 10:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Darling Nikkie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because man have their desires and ambition.
Many guys even if they do have happy relationship with their girl friend still enjoys talking with other guys about hot chick they know and how they want to go out with them.
Some man loses out to the desire, while stronger willed once don't.
2006-06-23 11:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ryujin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't have the gutts (balls) to speak the truth. Most of them don't even know what love is. It's sad!!! But not all men are like that. I can gaurantee. Just need to find one of those. Good Luck!! Always listen to your heart not what other people will think.
2006-06-23 12:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nature. Look at all the animals around us. Not one type of animal (even the ones that "mate for life") is 100% faithful. Nature urges them to do it. Self control is what they must posses. Humans are not good with self control.
2006-06-23 10:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they need to feel desired. Too bad they would rather be selfish and cheat then involve their woman in it.
2006-06-23 10:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋