should you have anal sex if only your mate wants to and you are scared?

Question

what if you are too scared to but he is your husband

Answer 1

if you are not ready then don't do it and tell him so. If he loves you he will understand. good luck.

Answer 2

First think about why your scared. Or talk to him about it so that he understands. And maybe you can talk threw it. If it's cuz your scared it will hurt but yet you want to try it, then use a LOT of lube and relax, if it starts to hurt, then have him stop and he will at least be happy that you tried it for him. He can't say that you didn't even try! But if you are completely uncomfortable with it, just explain that to him and if he loves you then he will understand. If he gets mad, then really you need to rethink the whole deal of the relationship anyhow. No man should get mad at you for NOT wanting to do something like that! but I'm sure he's a good understanding man. Just talk to him, figure out if you are going to try it or just talk and understand the situation! Good luck!

Answer 3

Well, you need to talk this over with your husband, and be honest with him. But just remember, the anus isn't designed for that. Keep that in mind. Some ladies love it, and you may like it yourself after a while. If you decide to do it, then tell him to be patient, and go slowley. Use plenty of lubrication. Never let him enter you vaginally after he's been in your anus. Your anus naturally has bacteria in in, and if he doesn't wash off thoroughly, then you can get a vaginal infection. Some guys this is their fetish. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. If he loves you, then he'll respect that. Think about it...best of luck to you.

Answer 4

if you are scared and he is your husband he should care more about that than where he sticks his penis. no you shouldn't do it if you aren't comfortable with it and that should be the end of the discussion, if it isn't you need to set your man straight!! as your husband he should respect and care about your feelings more than anything else, thats the deal he made and the vows he took..there was nothing in there about anal sex now was there?

Answer 5

hey hopefully you still have horny feelings for him that way when u are u can make the decision and feeling u want to try it its great if u do dont tense relax bend all the way u can like on a bed only booty sticking up dont be scared hes your husband he should know what u like how slow etc if he dont well how about some communication

Answer 6

When you decide (it's up to you - not him) to try it, let him use his finger first - lots of lube and go really slow, have him stop and then continue, just don't shove it right in - this is supposed to be sensual not painful. Make sure his fingernails are cut short. Just relax - it make take a few sessions of him playing with your @$$ in order for you to start enjoying it.

Also remember too - what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Once he gets his finger up your @$$, then you get to stick your finger up his. If he gets to stick his rod up you, you get to stick your vibe up his (and eventually a strap-on)

Answer 7

what are you scared about, if you do it slow and stop if there is any pain, there is nothing to be scared about, take ur time, plenty of lube, vasaline is best, some of the lubes dry to quick and a couple of times u will love it, just go slow and easy untill u get use to it

Answer 8

You should never do anything that you feel scared or uneasy - or even will regret. And you shouldn't feel like you have to, regardless of who it is.

Answer 9

I believe in "going on instinct", so feeling that it would only be intrusive, you could be instinctive of the damage it can cause, so my advice would be to "go with your instincts", or seek answers on how to do it as not to injure you.

Answer 10

Let him try, if you dont like it, start crying and blubbering, that will stop the show quickly!

Answer 11

Don't be scared. It could be fun!!! depending on his size