i've alwayz liked boyz but lately i've been attracted to girls i don't know if im bi, lesbian or just curious. i alwayz thought i was straight
2006-06-23 10:18:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think right now your just curious take the time to experience things so that you know yourself & and will be comfortable with your decision, I personally think I'm bi but I'm quit sure yet I'm still working on it too!
2006-06-23 10:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Almond_eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you're just curious. If you were really a lesbian, you'd probably already know it. Nothing wrong with curiosity, but it "could" cause you problems later in life. It might be a good idea to wait and see if these feelings you're having toward other girls grows or subsides. Don't let anyone talk you into anything you may not be ready for. Take your time.
2006-06-23 10:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can answer this question for you. You will have to think about it yourself. You may be bisexaul (feeling romantic feeling for girls and guys), bi-curious (wondering what it would be like to kiss or make love to another woman but still really only into guys longterm) which is natural (to be curios), or questioning (meaning you don't know yet how you feel about it.) There are youth groups for GLBTQ youth in most states, maybe you should go there to talk about it openly. The last Q stands for Questioning youth. I'll give a link to where you can find a group near you.
http://www.youthresource.com/about/youth_group.htm
2006-06-23 10:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that is the only question i have seen on this site that we can't answer for you...... depending on your age, im guessing it's curiosity. most females go through an experimental phase, as do most boys. The difference is that a female is more willing to expieriment with those closer to them rather than strangers...boys on the other hand (for fear of failure) would rather a stranger, so if it goes bad, they don't have to look at this person again. the best advice for you is to think , long and hard about it, than gather a close friend and try it out....worse comes to worse, you and your friend become closer...... o yea, the key is not to tell anyone else about this untill you figure it out....k? good luck.
2006-06-23 10:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by coreyaweber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club! I too thought I was straight until I was 18 years old and out of the blue I had feelings for my best friend. I did not know I was capapble of feeling the same way towards women than towards guys.
I just live my life with an open heart. I mean my heart does not see what love looks like, it does not have eyes. It just only feels. What can I do if my heart wants to give love to someone if it does not care what the person looks like. The body is just a shell to house the soul, the spirit. Before we were born, we were gender-less spirits/souls, and after we die, we will continue to be gender-less spirits.
In Hinduism, in order to realize God within ourselves, we must not identify with the body as we are truly not the body.
What I can share with you about my sexuality. I'm 35 now. I did not start dating women until I was 25, it took me a few years to understand what was going on with myself and feel confident first. Now after two female relationships, I'm now understanding that sexuality is not as black and white it seems. It is quite fluid.
Who we are at 18, we are not the same person at 35 and again at 50, so on. We're always changing. Really we should not place importance on labels. It is society that places importance on them, so we force ourselves to put who we are into a box, but we may not always stay in the same box.
Do not stress over what you are right now. Rather focus on who you want to love and be with. Who do you enjoy spending your time with? Learn who you are with each person that you are with throughout your life. Just follow your heart. Over time with several relationships or experiences, you will come to understand who you are better.
Labels are only for the convenience of others, but we truly do not need them for ourselves. Keep that in mind. If others demand to know who you are today? All you have to say is "you don't know yourself yet" but if they insist, it's always safe to say "bi" for now, but it does not mean you have to stay with that label forever.
2006-06-23 14:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Amma's Child 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always had boyfriends but the only reason I dated them was b/c I didn't wanna be a lesbian. I also considered myself straight b/c I didn't wanna be discriminated, plus my step dad is a preacher. Well I came out to my parents and they kicked me out. I'm now having to live with my dad who is constantly discriminating me. But guess what? I have the best girl in the world and I can't wait to be 18. Maybe you're gay and don't wanna admit to yourself that you are cuz you are afraid of the outcome.
2006-06-23 10:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kake Hess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about until you are sure about your orientation you don't label yourself. That will make finding who you are alot more confusing. Just live your life and see how your orientation grows, you sounds really young so give yourself some time. Write in a journal how your day to day life is. Then in a couple years of writing look back and then determine your sexuality.
2006-06-23 10:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by A Dizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMGZ i was about to ask the same EXACT question..haha maybe we're soulmates lol...i think we're just curious
2006-06-23 10:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow your heart, and not your testicles! It sounds to me like your bi-curious! And that's ok!
2006-06-23 11:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by munkypoo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont know till you try. well that is not really true. LOL but it is the best way to be sure.
2006-06-23 10:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋