2006-06-23 10:17:27 · 13 answers · asked by bigscuzrg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
by leaving them both in the dust and choosing your friends and spouses more carefully in the future. this really stinks, i'm sorry and good luck! just remember they were wrong and they weren't who they claimed to be, it has nothing to do with you or anything you did..you were who you said you were they were liars and fakes don't concern yourself with them they aren't worth the time or the effort. they have both stolen enough of that from you already.
2006-06-23 10:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through this. I know the feeling. Anyway, are you willing to forgive him? You don't have to forget, but if you want to stay with him, you need to forgive him. It's really bad that your best friend is doing that.....but.....you're best friend isn't married to you.....he is. He's the one with the commitment. Affairs always tend to be found out. Is he willing to stop having the affair? Now the next question...is he lying to you? All this needs to be considered. It's hurtful enough in that situation. But if things don't come to a good ending to your satisfaction, then maybe it's time for the next step. Only you can decide this, and please be patient, think things out thoroughly. If he really loves you, and truly repents, then there is hope for your marriage. Also, if you have the money and decide that you want to take the next step, a good private detective could sure give you all the evidence you need. Again, think and be patient. I only wish you the best of luck with this..........
2006-06-23 20:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wont for a while and will always be wary of any new relationship you may enter into with female or male in the near future but you will do things differently and watch out for signs that you will be aware of now,the problem is your husbund should have told you a long time ago that he did not love you any more before he had an affair,the problem is he knew you would have been hurt but he didnt know it would of hurt you more to find out he was having an affair,take it as a good thing and a turning point in your life to find someone better someone who truely is your soal mate when you find true love True love will not hurt you or decieve you
2006-06-23 17:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't mean trust your husband, because you would be a fool to do that.
If you mean with another man down the road, then yes you will trust again. Each new person entering your life gets a clean slate. it is up to the individual to keep it clean. Everybody gets a chance. You can not compare your cheating husband to anyone.
2006-06-23 17:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't trust either of them, ever again. Get rid of the husband and the friend. Find new friends, and start a new life.
2006-06-23 17:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see i see things more differently than every1 else on this comment. i feel we all make mistakes. maybe he wanted to get caught cause he was lacking something and couldnt tell you. maybe you werent giving it up at home. i dont know the reason i dont know you guys. all i can say is we do all make mistakes. give him another chance, if you love him. if theres no love then dump him. its not worth it. but marriage you need to work on for good times and bad. just dont give him so much trust so soon. make him work on it for a long time, youll feel in your heart what is best to do, good luck
2006-06-23 17:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by grniz07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump BOTH of them, then find a friend and a man who aren't such azzes!
2006-06-23 17:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump them both , right after you get through kicking their a$$!
2006-06-23 23:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two types of people. Those who cheat, and those who don't.
2006-06-23 17:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by Clark W Griswold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That whole "once a cheater, always a cheater" phrase.... so true
2006-06-23 17:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by bobbi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋