2006-06-23 09:45:27 · 23 answers · asked by mesh180 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If u have to ask the question, then yes it's a mistake. u obviously say your in love but why would u break up. if you guys, as a couple can't work out your problems TOGETHER, then you shouldn't be with eachother. i'd at least try. what i try to do is give it my all, that way at the end of the day when everything's said and done i can say that i tried, gave it my all and i have no regrets.....
2006-06-23 09:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by cali_gal716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. The odds that you can create a healthy relationship when one or both partners needs to fix their own issues are poor. Some pull it off, but most of the time, it just ends up destroying the relationship.
You need to be able to each focus on your own issues, without the pressure of trying to make someone else happy. Trying to "fix" yourself just to meet the other person's needs doesn't work either. You have to be who you are and like that person. You each need to love each other as you are, not as you hope they will be.
Hopefully you two can remain friends. Maybe when you've got it all together, you can rekindle things.
But trying to do it now, is more likely to drive it into the ground.
2006-06-23 09:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is right what is wrong? Who knows? In life there are no mistakes, only life lessons. So stop wondering if it was a mistake and ask yourself the real question. Will I go back or will I move forward in another direction. The decision you made to leave was the one you needed to make because you made it, now decide what it was for and then pick a direction from there.
Good Luck!
2006-06-23 09:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by G P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is are you really in love with him/her....If you are it's a mistake....I have been married for 10 1/2 years and we are still working on ourselves....that takes a life time to do because no one is perfect.....you don't have to break up to work on yourself because as soon as you fix something something else will need to be fixed....it's an on going cycle!!!!!!!!
2006-06-23 09:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes time apart is good, once you both have worked on your problems things might work out, don't plan on it though, most times after people separate and look back a a relationship they wonder why they did things or how they stayed in it. Hope things work out for the best for you.
2006-06-23 09:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told by a shrink not to get involved with someone new (was presently going through a divorce) She told me not to see this new wonderful person for 6 months and if after that time I still wanted to get involved then I stood a better chance at making it work. I didn't listen. I couldn't chance losing him. It is 5 years later and we are getting married in 2 weeks. Listen to your heart.
2006-06-23 09:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by notduskbutdawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what that means: 'work on ourselves'. If you are not in love with this person, you did the right thing. When you meet someone you can really connect with, you will know it!
Good luck.
2006-06-23 09:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by badlass7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I feel you didn't make a mistake. If you both need to work on yourselves then this is more important to do then staying together and hating them and yourself. You both need to figure out your lives. For a healthy relationship, you need to be happy and confident in yourself. You need to know who you are and love yourself before you can truly love someone else. If he truly loves you and you truly love him, then you both will work to better yourselves and be there for one another when you both are ready to have a relationship. Those who love you will wait for you.
2006-06-23 09:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by vfaa_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen love is great, but when there are issues surrounding love, it can be a poisionus creature. Jealosy, and other non productive tings seep into your relationship. So i think breaking up with the person is the right thng to do. It may hurt now, but in the long run they will thank you! if Not you will thank your self!
2006-06-23 09:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Pisces Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that its a mistake to ever think that you can "work on yourself" and one day it will be "over". People are constantly changing and to think there is a specific time that this will take and to put your life on hold to do it is a Young Adult idea.
Once you get up there you learn that you are always trying to get your poop together.
2006-06-23 09:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by Angelus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋