She is talking to a guy friend of hers that she has not seen in a long time. Innocent enough right? But she deletes the fact that she has called him on her cell. Also she deletes all text messages from him. When she went out one night she clamed that she was going to a bar near our house but i found out that she went to one that is close to him. And she denied the fact that she did this. I love my wife very much but I'm very conncerend.
2006-06-23 09:44:54 · 19 answers · asked by holder_12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She may not be physically cheating on you, but she is emotionally. She is hiding her relationship with a friend from you. Most likely discussing issues she should be talking about with you. She's not telling you the truth because she feels guilty about what she's doing and doesn't want to get caught. You need to talk to each other and find out what her problem is with your relationship. And it will very likely turn physical if not already
2006-06-23 10:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by cindy kim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't put anything past a woman. First off she should not be going to any bar without you. The last time I checked people go to bars to drink and oh yea.....hook up. Talk with some friends and maybe one or two will help keep an eye out for you. A gut feeling generally means something so don't deny yourself the satisfaction of busting her a-- if she's messing around.
2006-06-23 10:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by tripping_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, there's something going on there if she's deleting stuff and hiding the truth from you. I suggest that you do a little investigative work to find out the real deal. It may hurt you, but for peace of mind - you need to do this. Call your cell company and get a detailed account of your wife's phone. And better yet, come right out and ask her - tell her you're concerned and that you've just got to know, but be ready for the truth.....
2006-06-23 09:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rudy Dawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's nice if she wants to catch up with an old buddy BUT she is married and should include you with their "catching up" or whatever they're doing. this way she can be open about it with you. When she talks about him do u drill her about why why why i don't like blah blah blah. cuz if u do then that can explain why she'd delete his # and lie to u cuz ur not trusting her. she gets rid of that stuff so u won't find it and get on her case about it. that doesn't mean she's cheating. it just means she has a new friend and that's it. u don't want to push her to him u know. but at the same time, don't ignore little signs, if she's cheating, it'll come out of the closet one way or another. but don't lose trust in her just yet.....
2006-06-23 09:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by cali_gal716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there can be such a thing as two old friends getting together and it being completley honest enough.but this seems to have to many secrets behind it.Has she ask you to come along?If not I would just suggest that you would like to come along and meet this person that means so much to her,maybe yall could hit it off as well.If she says no are shys away from it then she is your wife and I would just ask her not to go either if she loves you she will respect your wishes.Either way yall are married and if you have doubts tell her you are uncomfortable with this and would rather she didnt see this friend any more.
2006-06-23 09:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by carolinagirlatk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit fishy to me. I have a friend like that and I delete what I say because I am complaining aboiut my husband to him.
I would follow her the next time she goes out and see what happens.
Borrow a friends car and go with a girl she doesn't know. Dress like you would not dress normally. Use the girl as a shield to watch what is going on and see for yourself.
GL
2006-06-23 09:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Angelus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit her down and Calmly discuss the situtation with her. Tell her what you have found or noticed and your fears over her being so friendly with him. It could be just a innocent friendship that she is afraid if you found out you wouldnt want her to keep it up. Maybe you could suggest a double date you and your wife with him and his wife or gf. Maybe try to be his friend also and go from there
2006-06-23 09:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be concerned. Secrets and lies are always a bad sign. Maybe he's the one who got away that she never forgot. If you love her you better hurry and let her know. Being angry and being right will not help you get her back. Of course you could just leave her, but you did say you love her.
2006-06-23 09:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should follow her and find out for yourself. i mean if he is just a friend then she has nothin to hide. tell you are goin somewhere and you will be back. make sure you give her a specific time that u will be back. but the truth will be you will be watchin her every move follow her everywhere she goes.
2006-06-23 09:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by crayze_gurl34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be. they say that women only cheat when they are unhappy, need a bigger dick, or more money. so if you are not in htese cat. maybe she is. follow her one nite or grab the phone outta her hand when shes talkin to him and tell him to back the **** up. or check phone records.
2006-06-23 09:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋