I babysit for a friend of mine,she has 3 kids (10,4,and 2 mo.)and I have 4(10,7,6, and 3 mo.)Originally she told me she was taking 12 weeks off after she had the baby,and the baby was due May 4,2006,wich would have been great cause,by then all the older kids would have been in school most of the time and I would have only had the 2 babies.(she is only paying me 140 dollars a week).However,she had the baby early(April13),and also went back to work at 8 weeks instead of 12.So now I have all 7 kids from 7am to 6pm mon.thru fri. and she still only pays me 140 a week.Not only that but I told her in May that I had to have July 5th off cause my baby has a dr. appt.she said that was fine,now she decided to only take half the day off,not even that she changed her schedule so on that day she is going in early(4:45am)
We have been friends for 15 years and I really don't want to piss her off,what should I do?
2006-06-23 09:33:38 · 11 answers · asked by leila rose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her how you feel and if she gets pissed off at you then she is not really your friend even if you have known her for 15 years. besides have you checked out the prices of day care these days. if any thing she should be counting her blessings that she has a friend that would be there for her that much and for that long
2006-06-23 09:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by shannon8869 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first things first, we all know that friends are there to help each other...this true HOWEVER friendship is a about respect also, evaluate the situation here... first she went back to work early and now she's trying to take an earlier shift?! it does sound like she's taking advantage your kindness. You've been friends with this women for 15 years, you guys should have open communication down packed, I think you should tell her how you feel (in a respectful way) and let her know that you have a life also and that taking care of 7 children is quit a chore, everyone knows this! also for her to only be paying you 140 a week is a blessing and point this out to her as well! This act alone shows that you are a very caring and good friend. And as far as not wanting to piss her off... you shouldn't be scared or apprehensive about talking to your best friend, that's what they are suppose to be there for. Let her know that you are going to be there for her and that you are willing to help as much as YOU can, but taking on these early hours will be putting a strain on you as well as your friendship, because you can only do so much as an person.
Hope this helps some!
2006-06-23 09:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Almond_eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not to be afraid and have a talk with her. Let her know how you feel about the whole situation. She needs to consider you. She is only worrying about her life and that you feel that you are being taken for a fool. Also, that you have a life too and that you need to take care of your things too. Don't forget to mention that you are not trying to be rude but realistic because she would not like it if it was done to her as well. Friends help and understand each other. If she does not care or simply does not feel guilty then she is not a true friend but a hypocrite. Therefore, if friendship is broken don't worry about it. Friends come and go.
2006-06-23 09:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pay 140 a week for TWO kids that are 5 and 9. Up the price of what your willing to watch the kids for. Call local daycares and see what the going weekly rates is for the ages of her kids.
2006-06-23 09:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to piss her off ??? What about your sanity. You need to have a heart to heart with her. She will continue to take advantage of you until you say something. The money isn't enough and now with the infant, are you crazy??? Your kids are catching the brunt of not having their mother to care for them because your split in so many different direction.
You have quite the problem. Best wishes to you and how you handle it !!!!!
2006-06-23 09:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is enough! your only one woman and taking care of 7 kids. Yikes, you need to sit with her and reevaluate the initial plan , let her know since it's changed the pay and /or amt of time your taking care of the kids needs to change. You shouldn't feel bad and if she is a good friend she will understand.
2006-06-23 09:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget talking to her (that is the pity way) Be straight-forward! Tell her as soon as you see her next time that you need to change the weekly rate to 195.00 or else she can find another baby-sitter, if she understands then she is a real friend, if she doesn't understand, then kick her to the curb, she wasn't a friend to begin with.
2006-06-23 09:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by JO m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cannot take advantage of you unless you let them. Be honest with her. If she is your FRIEND, she'll be appalled at her own behavior and be more than willing to make sure you are compensated appropriately. If she gets angry then she's not much of a friend to begin with, and you're better off without her. Don't allow yourself to be a doormat just to keep a "friend". A real friend won't want to take advatage of you.
2006-06-23 09:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not nice to let your friend takes advantage of you. That is called Peer pressure. You should tell her how feel about it. I had two girls back in 5th grade who also took advantage of me and I thought their were my friends. Soon I realize that friends don't take advantage of you. At least your friend can thank you for helping her out.
2006-06-23 11:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by monnurse7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel and see if she can try to work something out with you.If things don't improve then you may need to stop watching her kids.Try seeing how you would feel in her shoes and try to help her see how you feel and maybe that will help the two of you to compromise.
2006-06-23 09:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by mommyof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋