How many people here are stuck in a completely loveless and miserable relationship? If so, have you ever had an affair or are having one now? Also-do you think it's OK in this type of relationship to have an affiar?
2006-06-23 09:32:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've had counseling etc. It didn't work-he didn't want to fix anything. He is always right and knows everything about everything. He treats me like dirt. We have come to the conclusion that we don't love ea other and are only together for the kids. We don't fight alot, but don't like ea other. He won't leave me b/c I support him and pay all of his bills. I don't want to leave b/c I have invested my whole life into everything we have and don't want to walk away from it. I also don't want to hurt my kids and upset them.
2006-06-23 09:54:45 · update #1
WHY are you stuck in the relationship?
How about getting out of it?
Then you are free to find a relationship that is mutually loving, caring, nurturing and mature.,
You might want to consider counseling if you feel you can't leave this relationship for whatever reason. Why stay somewhere that is bringing you so down?
If for some reason you feel there is no way out, then get counseling, alone or together, and go from there.
Do yourself a favor, and surround yourself with people and relationships that are respectful and caring.
Good Luck!
2006-06-23 09:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships aren't always easy - there are times in even the "happy" relationships where it gets tough. Instead of sitting around miserable and complaining about the situation, or finding someone to have an affair with - why not do something about it?
I don't understand why people don't make an effort to really communicate with their partner and try to fix the problems. Counseling is also another great option to help fix a relationship. People don't need to cheat or be miserable - but they do have to be willing to get up and do something about their relationship.
2006-06-23 16:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is ever stuck in a miserable relationship they choose to stay.If you are not happy then simply let the other person know, if you think you would hurt the other person by leaving, then dont you think it would hurt more if they found out you were being unfaithful? Would you ever want to be cheated on? I have been in quite a few relationships where the other person was cheating on me and it never feels good being cheated on so you need to think about that. And if you are trying to hurt them on purpose, then you are a really shallow person..
2006-06-23 16:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by shine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should'nt have a affair on your partner, and they should'nt have one on you either. If you guys don't love one another then get out of the relationship and leave one another alone. Find someone that'll truely love and make you happy. But having a AFFAIR isn't the answer to your question. Hope this helps you out good luck.
2006-06-23 16:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never stay together for the kids. What you don't reliese is that staying together for the kids will hurt the kids. The kids will be better off with out having to live with loveless parents
2006-06-23 22:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have finally found someone in the same boat. My kids are 8 and 11 and I will not leave until they are grown. I have not cheated, I wanted to but I would have to be honest and no one believes me. My kids love us both so much, I could not hurt them, they did not ask to be here. Once you meet someone else you will want to leave. It is crazy my wife does not want me but she will not le me go. Talk to your kids explain it to them, you deserve happiness you can still be friends with him.
2006-06-23 17:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you choose just make sure you keep it to your self don't tell friends what you plan on doing just find somebody you like and if you like him have the affair to make sure it's worth it and then get a divorce
2006-06-23 16:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by tay4blu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be, but not anymore and I'm happier than ever before. That's where you need to walk away honey.
Personally I don't think that it's ever "okay" to have an affair.
2006-06-23 16:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its still not ok to have an affair, it is ok to leave and get on with your life though, you only get one and so its terrible to waste it on something like this, whatever the obstacles are they can be dealt with.
2006-06-23 16:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An affair is never right...just leave.
2006-06-23 16:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by Miss.Canada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋