since i got married in november, things have changed dramatically!
2006-06-23 09:21:22 · 22 answers · asked by Bex2k6 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we never rushed into marriage, together for 9 yrs before, bought a house and have 2 fab boys!!
2006-06-23 10:19:22 · update #1
you have to work in a marriage. it takes two people to work at you have to talk to each other tell him how you feel about things and don't grow apart grow together and spend time alone without the children that is important. when the children goes to bed have a sex date.
2006-06-23 13:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by olive_olive_72 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the beginning we ignore certain characteristics but as time goes on, we become more comfortable.
Certain differences often go undiscussed and swept under the rug.
Eventually, we repress so much frustration that the things we used to ignore, now become a big deal and we fight over the smallest things.
The problems get worse because we don't know how to get to the root of the problem and communicate about expectations and desires.
When the fights become too frequent, we call quits and give up.
Marriage is a serious committment. You have a stronger responsiblity to eachother. You have made vows and promised to be there for the other person through good and bad, richer and poorer, etc.
It's not something that you just walk away from like a boyfriend or girlfriend.
You owe that responsibility to the other person. When we're not aware of that responsibility, it creates tension and frustration.
It'll catch you by surprise. If you don't flow with it and talk with your spouse, things will become even more dramatic.
2006-06-23 09:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sexual chocolate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dont always go wrong. They only go wrong if you dont understand what a "marriage" really is and respect it. If each person respected the other partner and respected their union and the vows they took in front of family and friends it wont go wrong.
Sometimes waiting too long before getting married or living together or having kids before the marriage can make the marriage feel like just a paper and doesnt give it the respect it deserves and the respect that God meant for it.
2006-06-23 11:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lupin IV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Im not married yet but I can say this to you in 3 answers
1.If your still married your lucky because most dont last due to - only wanting you for money or looks alone not your pesonality.
2. They did not get help from a councilor/ therapist to work out their problems.
3. Silly but the could have made the wrong choice after finding out what the person is really like- eg slob, slouch, rude etc...
2006-06-23 09:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Michael Daniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when some people get married they still want to retain part of their life as a single person,ie,going out to pubs clubs etc, without the other half of the marriage. You get married to be together,so why not do things together,share each others interest,even if you are not keen. Why have a seperate circle of friends ? You cannot remain as one,if you want to act as two!
2006-06-23 10:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they dont all go wrong....but most of the times now a days people jump into marriage way too early and are not ready...thats why so many problems arise is because people show their true colors in a serious relationship and when you get married and people tend to not like that...they should get to know the person through and through before making a long term commitment like that...
2006-06-23 09:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by raven wants it... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think peoples perception of what a "husband" and "wife" is puts pressure on a marriage, people think after i do that it's happily ever after but it's not. It hard work. and also if you don't fit a mold then they are looked at as not good a good wife or husband. That's why lot of people choose not to get married b/c their is no pressure you, just stay in a committed relationship.
2006-06-23 09:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by daddys_girl319 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things should not change it's only a piece of paper and a ring to show how much you love and are comitted to that person.
Why should things change? yes of course you change as a couple because life throws all matter of things in the mix but that doesn't mean that your feelings for each other change-- unless of course u now regret what you have done?
That rings true-- the novalty has worn off already has it? obviously then u were'nt ready in the firdt place
2006-06-23 09:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't always go wrong, what changed and how did it change? and more importantly did it REALLY change or did you sweep it under the rug until it became a glaring part of your everyday life? usually you find that the signs and warnings were there all along but people get so caught up in the idea of being married and having a wedding that they ignore it until its too late.
2006-06-23 09:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dont, people rush into things and start to meet the "real person"
How long were you together before you got married, did you live together?
2006-06-23 09:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋