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Question

i told my boyfriend i was pregnat and he told me that he was happy for me but to get an abortion but i want the baby he says we are too young should i get an abortion

Answer 1

your decision.. but weigh pros and cons b'for u take any.. ur bf may not take proper care( may even leave u) when the baby is born (maybe without father.. sorry to say)..
on the other hand its ur baby and if u feel like the baby is ur greatest priority then nothing else really matters.

Answer 2

how old are you? and Always remember do you really want to give up a life for a guy? You wouldnt be pregnate if it wasnt meant to be and to let you know I had my son the day after my 18th bday. I was pregnate with hime whne I was 17 and I love him sooooo much, There is nothing like seeing the new things he learns or the silly things that he does. Yes being a mom at a young age is tough, but its tough no matter when you do become one, and yes it teahces you responisbility, but you know wouldnt you rather grow up with your kids then wait till you get older when you dont have the time or engergy? Not only that but I have met alot of women whom got abortions and they said it was the worst thing they had ever done... Also when you go to get an abortion they ask you a series of questions to make sure it is really what you want and if you dont they wont give it too you. so if the only reason you are going to get one because your b/f is makin you then when you get there and get to those questions, they will read your emotions and it will just be a waist of your time because they will not give it too you. So the question is ARE YOU DOING IT FOR YOU? DO YOU WANT THE BABY? It dosent matter what the guy wants it isnt his body, he does have a responsibility, and if he dosent want it tell him to get lost and go grow up (like someone eles answered lol) and take him for child support not only that but the goverment helps single moms with education, medical, food, and even cash. WIC will give you what the baby needs food wise until it is 5 years old. SO remember you will never be alone and This is your kid, This is your future as well as his, but mainly yours. I would keep it If I were you there is no reason to take a childs life because you were unprepared before you had sex and were not on Birthcontrol. and Abortion is just an easy way out for women and it does a big psycological thing on your mind you will never be the smae after you get one.

Answer 3

There are definitely consequences for having sex outside of marriage. You are living proof. Perhaps your boyfriend should have thought about age when he was gettin it on with you to conceive a child. What's done is done. There's no turning back!You need to make the decision of not murdering your baby b/c your so-called loser selfish of a boyfriend wants you to murder the baby.
In the end..If you decide to go through with what he wants you to do. Just remember you will be the one suffering with the thought of knowing what you did. While he's relieved of the burden of all responsibilities to include the living with the thought of aborting the baby.
I don't know your age. However, it's best you tell your parents, get their support along with other family member and friends. My advice to you..Do what you want to do. Don't base you decision on what someone else wants. In the end, after it's all said and done. It will be just you..Learn from your past decisions that got you into this and try sharing this experience with other girls that are sexually active. Perhaps you'll be able to help some girl make better choices before having sex outside of marriage.
Finish school. This isn't going to be easy. This can/will only make you stronger. I hope you decide to do what's right in keep the baby (put his sorry azz on child support) or at least give the baby up for adoption.

Answer 4

If you want the baby, then ditch the loser and have the baby. If you have an abortion just because he wanted you too, then you are going to resent him for the rest of your life. When I found out I was pregnant with my first child, I was 20 and my bf was 25. He said that he would be more than happy to work the overtime to pay for the abortion because he didn't want a baby. I saw some councellors, and thought about it for a few weeks.. and decided that I wanted the baby. I ditched the loser. Now, my son is 4 and everytime I look at his beautiful face.. all I can think about is the father that didn't want him to be.

Answer 5

I am sorry if you feel that you are too young.....tell your boyfriend that he was also too young when he stuck it in you.....both of you should have known to use protection if you were sexually active...not only did you risk your health, now you have brought an innocent child into the picture by being senseless and irresponsible...
Abortion should not be used as a form of birth control.....if you do away with this child you will regret it for the rest of your life...not a day will go by that you will not think about the fact that you murdered your child.....or what it would have been or what it could be....do not do away with your baby because this guy is being selfish and thinking of himself...Love this baby and make your wrong right....

Answer 6

if you feel that you can can a stable safe and healthy environment for this baby then follow your heart, because if you can lay down and have the baby then you should be able to take responsibility and raise that baby. Abortion is not a form of birth control, and there will be regrets if you decide to go through with the abortion, but I always say trust in GOD and follow your heart, even when you think you just can't do it or go on, you really can. Just make up your own mind and don't let anyone make it up for you.

Answer 7

Well, a little too late to advise you to use birth control.
Tell us something: how OLD are you?

Now, in addition to that question, tell us how you plan to care for the baby, since it looks as if the sperm donor doesn't want to be a daddy.

And what about your family - are they willing to help you out when you go to work?

Girl, you've got a lot on your plate right now and you best be thinking about some of these things 'cause they won't wait.
You best start taking good care of your health by eating right, no smoking/drinking, getting prenatal care.
From this point on, its ALL about the baby...not you, not boyfriend, JUST the baby.

You can have the baby - that is your CHOICE.
But you MUST remember this: you and only you will be caring for that baby until he or she turns 18.
Otherwise, if you can't be a responsible parent, don't have the kid - put it up for adoption.

Answer 8

What are you religious beliefs, if any on the matter? Have you discussed this with your family or shared your feelings on this questionable decision with your boyfriend?

I personally don't believe in abortion, however this is your life, and no one can make this decision except for you. If you feel that you are prepared for the child, that's wonderful, and you should bring a child into this life despite how your boyfriend feels, because sex is the natural act of reproduction and the cost of the joys of unprotected sex is fertilization, therefor he will reap what he sows.

In a more positive light, just check out a few planned parenthood sites and make sure that you're truly ready for the responsibilities of having a baby and if you are, then congratulations on being an up and coming mother!

Answer 9

Dont do it for his sake, its your body and you have a choice too. If you want to keep it, Im sure that your family and friends will stand behind you 100%, even if you are young. Having a baby is an amazing experience. Family life is intensely rewarding and in fact may be the only thing in life that is actually worth pursuing. Everything else will eventually rust or fall down or fade from memory, but your family will still be there after you have gone.
Good luck, first time mom of 3 month old

Answer 10

Abortion shouldn't even be an option. It's killing a child. Adoption, yes, but not abortion. I would say continue with the pregnancy. Once he hears the heartbeat, he may have a change of heart. If not, think about the childless couple that would be so happy to raise and love your baby. Adoption is always a possibility.

Answer 11

Your body, your baby, your decision.
Remember boyfriends come and go.
A baby is a special thing, it's a gift from God.
If your boyfriend doesn't want it, well it's his loss.
Baby's are one of the biggest responsibilities anyone can undertake, but they are worth it. If you get an abortion, it could end up being something you might regret all your life. There are other options. But whatever decision you make it is your decision, make that decision based on what is best for you and your baby, not on what your boyfriend wants.