I messed up real bad. I met this girl online and eventually fell in love with her. Now it is getting really serious. And she doesnt know that i am married. What do i do
2006-06-23 09:10:05 · 15 answers · asked by John S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok i have met this girl and she is a real woman. i just dont know i love both my wife and her.
2006-06-23 09:17:10 · update #1
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.
You've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
2006-06-23 09:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the online honey that you're married, apologize and say goodbye, then change your screen names and email addresses and stay the hell away from your computer. In fact, move it so that you don't have any privacy when you're using it so you won't be tempted to contact the online ex. Don't breathe a word of it to your wife or you'll regret it. Instead, be the best husband you can be, because you owe her big time. She probably already senses that something is up, but she's not sure what. You MUST repair the damage you've already done to your marriage before it's too late.
2006-06-23 09:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Judgie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love them both, but the real question is which one do you care more for? Ask yourself, are you willing to give up all that you have with you wife to start a new life with the other not knowing if karma will come back and take the new love away as you have to your signifigant other?
2006-06-23 09:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by ~Mother Of Angels~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I have to say is SHAME ON YOU! Why were you looking for someone online? I have to say are you sure this is a woman? Ya know you hear about it sometimes.That a man fell "in love" with a girl online come to find out its a man.Your wife deserves better!
2006-06-23 09:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by rose_mc_mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in love with her or the idea of her? Are you in love with your wife? Honestly, someone will appear perfect online because you don't know the real them. Why would you leave your wife, who you have a bond with and loved enough to marry, for someone you really don't know. That really is stupid, and I am sorry to say that, but honestly, why leave your wife for someone you truly do not know.
2006-06-23 09:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, Either you're a fool or you aren't mature enough to be with either woman. People aren't possesions you trade away when you're tired of them or want a change. If the other gal is that important...... maybe you should have the patience to find a swinging woman to be involved with. What if the shoe was on the other foot!
2006-06-23 09:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come clean. The real woman in your life won't run. I'd say the one you're married to is the one you should stay with. If you're online dating other woman...then yeah...expect to get in a mix.
My ex had to choose, been a jig or with me. He obviously chose me! So now you choose.
Come clean. Tell the online chick you're married.
Peace out.
2006-06-25 12:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by Light W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER YOU ARE MARRIED! And have you even met in person? If not you should just do it and see how it goes. ONLY meet though. Do not cheat on your wife (sexually as you already have emotinally) If its real leave your wife...
2006-06-23 09:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mz_AmanDA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who is there for u , who loves u more than anything , whod u marry. u made the right choice for u when u said i do, so now dump the other chick cause ur hurting alota ppl
2006-06-23 09:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the reason you cant
trust on line dating and it should be penality for screwing up others life with bull hope wife and gf leave you high and dry serve you right
2006-06-23 10:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋